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I was involved in a very serious relationship with a girl for almost 5 years who then broke up n married someone else who had a better profile than me. I’ve finally moved on after 2 years of the break up and decided to start dating again. My ex is the most beautiful girl i’ve seen in real life. She even had a short stint as a model.

Now having been with someone as pretty as her, it is very hard for me to even go on a date with a girl that isn’t near that level. I don’t need a girl who is hotter so i can make her jealous, no, but I just cant even imagine myself with someone for a life time when I know I’ve been with better looking people. I ‘ve not been like this before, i’ve dated just ‘fine-looking” girls before my ex. but since my ex it is tough.

The only other problem is, most pretty girls i meet are so spoiled and no one is being as nice as her. Or either they act too pretty for me.

I am worried that I am starting to get very picky here. Is it normal? I have not been interested in 1 person without thinking about their looks in the back of my head. i feel ashamed to be honest for giving so much importance to looks but i can’t help it. Is there anything i could or should do?

~Sincerely yours
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[April Mașini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you’re not quite over your ex girlfriend even though it’s been two years since you broke up and you’ve decided to start dating again. Given you’re still hurt by the break up and her subsequent marriage to someone else, it’s not abnormal for you to compare other women to her. The problem is that just because someone is gorgeous doesn’t mean they’re nice, smart, funny, warm, generous, sexual or a whole slew of other things. If you’re not attracted to a woman, then don’t date her. Don’t rush yourself and feel that you have to replace your ex-girlfriend of five years, immediately.

I think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself to find someone to replace exactly what you had. Relax. Enjoy the dating process. Understand that it takes time — and use what you’ve learned from your last relationship and that break up to evolve as a person and a boyfriend!

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