[packattack18]

To start it off, I’m not the most social person. All my life I’ve been a fairly introverted person with a decreasing self-confidence. The main reason is because of the lack of relationships i have. It’s not that I’m bad looking, though I’m not the best either, but its because I’m way too shy. Basically, if I talk to someone more than a few days or more than a few sentences, they’re probably someone special. I may be talking to a person for a while and the second one of their friends come in , I’m as quiet as a mouse the rest of the time. I’m really trying to fix me being anti-social, but i find it so hard to do. Anyways, to the main reason I’m here.

A little background is that i work with this girl. We had talked a few time at work, but because were in different areas and take breaks at different times, we haven’t talked a ton, just when we had over lapping breaks, but i do actually see her on a daily basis, just not enough to stop and have a conversation with her. Just from the little we talked, i always though she was pretty cute, but didn’t really know her all that much to do anything about it. I recently started at a new College and she happens to go to the same college. We ended up having a class together and now talk on a daily basis, its been about a month. Lately i have been trying to get more and more “flirty” with her to see how she responds. From what i get off her, she kinda flirts back too, but I’m not 100% sure if its because she likes me, or if she’s just doing it because i am. I want to ask her out, but don’t want to make a fool of myself if she says no and now i gotta work with her with her knowing i like her.

The one other problem is that her Ex-Boyfriend also goes to this school, and recently just transferred into the class that were both in. She had mentioned previously that they’re still friends, I dont know the reason why they broke up. At first, i didn’t think I would mind him being in the class, but once he was actually in the class with us all, it kinda made it awkward. Mainly just me, because i knew what i was going at, but her ex is right there, and the way he talks to her, i think he may still have feelings for her. I know i cant really tell her to stop talking to him, but i wouldn’t know how to handle it if i ever did ask her out.

[AskApril Masini]

I know you don’t want to make a fool of yourself when you ask her out — but I think you should risk it. 😉 Chances of that happening are slim, and if you tell her you’d really like to take her out — how about Saturday because there’s a great movie playing nearby — or whatever you choose to do — you’ll get a lot more information! She’ll either accept the date or turn it down, or possibly give you something in between — but whatever happens, she’ll know you want to date her, and you’ll possibly know if she wants to date you, too! Ask her out!! 😉 It sounds like she likes you. 😎

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[packattack18]

So a few nights ago, i had to unfortunately had to break up with my GF of almost 3 years. Long story short, i can’t give her what she needs(expects). She grew up in a family where they never told her no, so whenever I have to tell her no, she freaks out. There’s more to it than that, but everything combined eventually got me to the breaking point and i had to. After things started going down hill a few months ago, a girl i work with and now am in a class with, started talking to me and the more we talk the more i realize how similar we are and have things in common. I slowly have started developing feelings for this other girl, but not enough that i would have broken up with my GF for the sole reason of this other girl. It is enough though, that i would ask her out if i was single because I’m not the type that’s gunna cheat on a girl. I don’t even know what to do right now. I know for a fact I’m gunna give it a bit before i make a decision on what i want to do about my Ex and this girl, but if anyone has any tips, I’d take em.

Don’t get me wrong, i still have strong feelings for my Ex, but I can’t deal with the way she acts when i tell her no or if something doesn’t go her way. She is also the extremely jealous type where if I’m talking to a girl she is asking 100 questions about who she is and why I’m talking to her. She has been texting me all day today saying that she’ll change, but she’s said that in the past and she only changed for a few weeks and then back to normal. On the other side, with this other girl, I’m not even 100% sure if she likes me more than a friend or not. I’m about 80% sure she likes me, but it’s something I’d have to give time to figure it out. I’m a pretty quiet and shy guy, but i can talk to this other girl all day and not mind a bit, something that I struggle to do with my Ex.

I’m just stuck whether to go back to my Ex since she says she’ll change, or move on and see how this other girl feels. Also, a few people i work with noticed that we had been talking a bunch lately and i mentioned that i like this girl, so they said they’d work on trying to find out if she liked me back.

Also, this girl and her BF just broke up earlier today i just found out.

[AskApril Masini]

Wait a minute — you broke up with your girlfriend, and you want to date this new girl — what’s the problem? 😎 You have an ex-girlfriend and a new prospect who’s newly single, as are you! 😀 Ask this new girl out!

I’m not sure what it is you’re waiting for, except that you’re afraid of being rejected. My advice is to look fear in the face and move past it. Just invite her to a movie, or drinks, and see how things go. It’s just a date — not a marriage proposal. 😉

Hope that helps! And I do hope you’ll ask her out.

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