[coacj]

Im not sure if this woman DJ is into me. im 24yrs old and shes 42yrs old. Ive known her for 3yrs now and 2 yrs ago she use to flirt with me alittle but i never took it serious because she use to go out with a guy her age at my job.

Now in 2011, ive started becoming attracted to her so now i talk with her more than i use to. I told her Ive date older women because i click better with them and she was cool with the idea of older/younger relationships. She told me she is talking to a guy at the moment an for some reason we staired at each other for 6 secs without words lol. Im known at the job for having a smooth deep voice,in good toned shape and smelling good (Not being Cocky or anything). But when i see DJ i give her tight 1sec hugs and she would pinch me on my shoulder or touch my stomach an she’d say you smell good like always. Iv’e given her the tight hugs 3 times with her giving me positive feed back, but then one week she started ignoring me. Like if i was in the room with other people she would say hi to everybody else but not me. So then i said “Hello to you too” and she turned around an leaned in forward towards me and started talking to me and tugged on my shirt. And yesterday when i saw her i went in to give her a hug and she gave me a one arm hug and i asked her why do you give me one arm hugs now and she said “you make me feel uncomfortable” with alittle smile on her face. I was confused by it so i said Why? and should you be telling me this? and with a smile on her face she said ” well i just said it”. So then i leaned on the shelf and then she leaned in on the shelf towards me and we started talking. later on i bumped into DJ and her friend on the elevator and they were in conversation so i let them talk. I had my head down and I notice DJ looked in my direction and then she put her head down and then i got off the elevator.

So people who read this im clueless on whats going on in this womans head. Is she attracted to me or is she not. I cant figure her out.

[AskApril Masini]

The best way to figure out if she’s into you is to ask her out on a date and if she says yes, you’ll have your answer, and you won’t have to spin out wondering. 😉

Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, I’ma do that and I’ll definitely let you know what happened.

[coacj]

Hi April, I didn’t get to ask her out because I didn’t feel like it was the right place or time. But I did ask her what she ment when she said she was uncomfortable. And she said that shes not uncomfortable, she said when I hug her it catches her by surprise and that she feels bashful. She also said that I never hug her. But we both know that Ive hugged her a couple of times and she gave me postive feed back from it so I don’t know what she’s talking about. But she said that she feels funny an bashful when I give her hugs but she’s ok with me giving her hugs.

[AskApril Masini]

Ask her out and see if she says yes. 😀 If she does, you’ll know if she likes you enough to date you. If not, move on. It’s that simple. But if you avoid it….. you’ll stay confused.

[coacj]

Hi april
Before i left the job i was in conversation with her, and before she went back to work I told her yesterday that someday when were both closing we can grab a bite to eat an she said yea ok after I come back from my vacation we can. Cause this week I start my vacation. But she did say yes so I’ll see what happens when I get back from vaca.

[AskApril Masini]

“Grabbing a bite to eat” 😯 isn’t a date. And if you really care about her and want to let her know you care about her, treat her that way. 😮 Ask her out on a date to dinner at a restaurant that has cloth tablecloths and flowers in vases and maybe candles on the table.

Don’t [i]create[/i] confusion. 😕 Be clear on what you want so she is clear on what’s going on and can respond with clarity. Got it?? 😉

[coacj]

Hey April, I know it’s been a while. But I have been talking to DJ but it’s been dragging. I asked her out twice but she said she would let me know but I didn’t hear anything. I told her I was interested in her an that was my reason for asking her out, she didn’t turn me down tho, it’s like she’s leaving it a mystery. I gave her my number. When I spoke to her last tues she was smiling alot an couldn’t stay in one place almost like if she was nervous. She kept asking me the same questions like ” did you work Monday?, how come you didn’t work Monday?, So you didn’t want to work Monday?” it was weird but that’s what she was stuck on. She then told me that she was talking to a guy an that it was going good, so I said to myself ” ok I’ma chill for now an not ask her out”. So when I saw her Saturday I said how u doin to her and kept on walking and she stop me an said “oh I don’t get a kiss from you anymore” infront of everybody like if she was shown off. So then I told her I see your getting confident now” an she started stuttering her words. When I saw her yesterday she gave me a hug and she started asking me the same questions again. Like what time you came into work? I said 2pm. Then she asked me so was you suppose to come at 2pm? I got a little annoyed an said ” Yea I was supposed to!!”. April why does she keep asking me the same questions? Is it cause she’s shy or nervous around me an doesn’t know what to say?

[AskApril Masini]

Since you’re confused it’s a good idea to look at the bottom line: You’ve asked her out twice and she hasn’t gone with you. 🙁 Even though you want to see it as her not turning you down — you have to be more realistic to eliminate your confusion. She [i]has[/i] rejected you, although she hasn’t been black and white with you about it, probably because she likes you as a friend. If a woman wants to go out with you, she’ll be happy to do so. This woman isn’t. She isn’t interested in dating you — and the test was that you got up the courage to ask her out and she didn’t go. That she’s telling you about another guy she’s interested in is more proof she’s put you in the friend zone.

It’s great that you asked her out — I know that this took courage on your part. And I know it doesn’t feel like it, but her rejection is a gift because now you can look elsewhere for a woman who wants you all to herself and wants to give all of herself to you. This should clear up your confusion and set you free to pursue a real Ms. Right. 😉

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