[desertmama2010]

Hello,

I would like opinions on whether this relationship has a chance of succeeding long-term.

History…together 2 1/2 years. Approximately 10 breakups during those 2 1/2 years. There has been infidelity, screaming arguments, property destruction, and physical violence (on both sides). Currently the couple is reconciled after a one month breakup (caused by the woman cheating on the man with his friend). The couple is blissfully happy and in a “honeymoon” period. They are devoted to one another and are constantly declaring their unending love for one another. They have been reconciled for about 2 months. The man has agreed to delete all female friends from his facebook page and from his phone, and has cut off all contact with any female other than the girlfriend. The woman is “allowed” to have all the male facebook friends she wants and has many male friends she speaks to daily. They are living together currently (she moved out several months ago but moved back in when they reconciled).

The man is convinced this woman is the love of his life and everything he’s ever wanted in a woman. She is over a decade younger than him and he is proud of being able to have such a young girlfriend. They plan to marry someday soon. She does not work and he supports her financially 100%, and has since they became a couple. She does not plan to work and expects him to be the “provider”. He is accepting of this because he prefers her to be available to him 24/7.

Do they have a chance of making this a forever, permanent loving relationship and marriage? Does their history seem to indicate they are not destined to last, or is it possible to move past all of that? Can a couple “grow up” and stop all of the “drama”? Will they eventually get sick of the roller coaster, or is that part of the attraction, which will keep them together?

Opinions welcome!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This relationship, which I assume in spite of the distancing third party point of view, is you, is a disaster. Ten break ups in 2 years? Infidelity, physical and property violence? Are you kidding me? 😯 You should not be dating him. Anyone who assaults you is not a good candidate for a husband, boyfriend, friend or neighbor.

You can do a lot better with many other men. My advice is to move on.

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[desertmama2010]

LOl no, it’s not me. I wouldn’t put up with it and I don’t need drama in my life. This, sadly, is my cousin’s relationship. She doesn’t seem to want to break away (even though every time they break up she says she hates him and is “done”). Five minutes after saying she’s done with him, they are back together (that’s a slight exaggeration, but not by much). People have tried talking to her, but see, we don’t understand, they are IN LOVE!!!!!

I’m guessing that there are just some people who think that all the heightened emotions, the adrenaline and anger and anxiety and nerves are love. They get bored with everyday, calm, sensible life so they seek high drama to fill a void. That’s my theory anyway. I didn’t mention it, but both of them are also alcoholics and substance abusers. Not much of a surprise there, I’m sure. Also, her family hates him and his family hates her…so that adds to their fantasy of “us against the world” and helps to bind them together.

She wants kids with this guy. God help those kids…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t recommend getting involved in other peoples’ relationship issues. It creates gossip. Try focusing on your own life. 😉

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