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Im in love with my bf Vinny. We have known each other for over 5 years but have only been dating for 5 months. I have never been with someone who shows me more respect then he does. He treats me like a queen. He is very good looking and everyone likes him. The one down fall is that in that time in between those 5 years that we lost contact he started using drugs. From what I know he’s clean now. But there’s still signs… he has a problem telling the truth. things always showing up missing and he tells lies after lies after lies to cover it up till the truth comes out.. i know hes not cheating and he passed a drug test. just recently he bought me a ring for Xmas. he didn’t give it to me on Xmas and i started wondering why. he told me he wanted to wait for the right time, which i understand. I came home last night and his mom asked me if my grandma was holding the ring… she wasn’t. when he came home he admitted to pawning it because we got into a fight. he pawned a $200 ring for $20. he made up 3 excuses with what he did with the money. i packed up and left. while i was gone he got the ring back and came to my house and gave it to me apologizing once again for lying. i told him to leave but i soon found my self back at his house 2 hours later because i couldn’t sleep w.o him. i don’t know what to do. i love him with all my heart. hes why i breath. my heart wants to stay but my mind tells me its time to go. what do i do when u have to give up some thing u love and its not your fault.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It may not be your fault….. but it is your responsibility to take care of yourself. And if he lies and has a recent history of drug use, you really have a responsibility to move on. Imagine if you had children with this guy. 😕 You’d be subjecting them to a father who is a liar and a drug user — which is really awful. I’m not sure what it is you love about him, but I don’t think you’re understanding that character is very important when you choose a boyfriend — or even a friend. He doesn’t have a good character, and that’s why my advice is to move on quickly. 😉

I hope this helps.

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