[Anonymous]

April:

I have found over the last 2 years many text messages and naked pics, videos indicating that my boyfriend was cheating. He denies it all. Says they are just friends and nothing has happened. That women just send these pics but he has never been with any of them. things have been going well with no issues for the past 6 months and I haven’t looked in his phone. I made a promise to myself and to him I wouldn’t. I am with him every weekend and we talk all the time. But in the same instance, we don’t live together, so I don’t know if he leaves late at night to see another woman because sometimes he would do that with me. just recently, I saw several regular shots of this woman and 2 half naked shots in his phone. He started to accuse me of cheating and I didn’t know why and it raised a red flag to me, like are you doing something and trying to blame it on me? well I saw the pics and he adamantly denied that they were in his phone. He thinks I lie and im crazy and I never believe him. I saw the pics! At this point, I want to be happy and have someone I can trust. What is you advice?

[Ask April Masini]

Clearly you don’t trust him, and when you wrote that you think he may leave you and go see other women because he used to do that with you…..I think you have your answer. This guy isn’t Mr. Right.

Get Think & Date Like A Man, and read it. It will help you figure out what Mr. Right really looks like (not this guy) and how to get him and keep him. Here’s the link to download the book online: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], or you can buy it at Amazon.com or on the website for Barnes & Noble.

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[Anonymous]

Thanks April. He says that women just send him these pics and he hasnt done anything and I do beleive him. I dont think he would cheat. But, if he as no relationship or just a friendship, why are they sending regular and naked pics?

[Ask April Masini]

On Wednesday you wrote me that the naked photos your boyfriend receives from other women “indicate” he is cheating and that you don’t trust him. On Thursday you wrote me that you do trust him and you don’t think he would cheat on you. 😯 ❓

You need to check in with yourself and figure out what it is you really believe. If he doesn’t want to receive photos from these women, he can block their numbers. By accepting the naked photos over and over again, he’s tacitly (at best) encouraging this naked photo mail.

Are you trying to convince yourself of something you don’t believe deep down? 😕

[Anonymous]

I agree April. At the end of the day, I can’t trust him. There has been numerous times where I have found pictures that were inappropriate in his cell and text messages. In the beginning of our relationship, he even took another woman out to dinner. I always had this feeling with him, so I kept my options open as well and continued conversations with men I knew before I met him. I knew this was unhealthy but it was almost like I was trying to protect myself. We have been apart for 1.5 months now. He is still calling and trying to get me back. I still love him very much but I know a life with him is filled with drama and stress and I don’t want this for my life. That’s one of the reasons I got divorced 4 years ago! On our last phone call, he advocated for us to get back together and that he will take care of everyone. He said he especially needed me because he needs me to take care of him. That’s fine in a way, but I’m supposed to do everything for him. He’s great in many ways but has a lot of bad habits, smoking, drinking, etc. and I don’t do any of those things. I have kids to take care of; I don’t feel like taking care of a 40 year old man! To me, life with him would be unhappy about 30% and I don’t want to sacrifice my happiness again. I did that when I was married and because I had 2 kids by my x husband. I think my decision to stay away from him is the best. I know there are other fish in the sea and someone that can make me completely happy. In addition, I would be taking on a lot of responsibility with him because he has 6 children and is a single Dad. I love the kids very much but there is a lot to say there. Your thoughts?

[Ask April Masini]

Okay: naked women on his cell phone; cheating on you early in the relationship; and he has SIX kids as a single dad?!?! 😯 Check, please!

As a single mother with a divorce only four years behind you, you DO NOT need this kind of drama in your life. Love is wonderful, but love [i]with trust[/i] is even better — especially when you have your own two kids to take care of. This guy IS NOT your Mr. Right. I think it’s great that you want to get back out there and find love, but you have to be extra careful to find someone who has great character as well as other wonderful attributes because he’s going to be your future husband your children’s’ future step-father. They deserve the best — and so do you – but sometimes it’s easier for women to do things for their children first, but if that’s what it takes, go out there and find an excellent step-dad for your children who will make you super happy because he’s a great boyfriend and future husband.

Do what I told you — READ the book I wrote (it’s only $15.95 and will save you LOADS of money, time and heartache), Think & Date Like A Man, to make sure you don’t waste your time with Mr. Wrong. You deserve the best, so start by reading the book. Here’s the link where you can download it tonight! [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]

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