[Anonymous]

So I been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years we have a daughter together and we live together as well. Our relationship has been rocky but I’ve tried my best to change things for the better and just trying to avoid arguing..I been going to church class as a way for therapy lol just to make me a better person..So lately we been getting along and we argue time to time but not all serious just pity stuff….I mean we been getting along and stuff and I know he gets faustrated with me at times but I feel things have gotten better…so yesterday we had a pity argument and I kissed him trying to get things back together and let him sleep..so tell me why today I get a fkn txt msg saying “I cheated on you”…like out of nowhere..what the hell am I suppose to think or do..we have a child and live together….like I want to believe him bcuz I knew how he was back then but I dont think he is that stupid to mess up our family..i dont know I am just confuse and need advice..Is he just lying just bcuz of yesterday’s argument and just wants to push my bottons? Here is a tip..yesterday He put this MAC powder cover up makeup on the counter and didnt even mention nothing about it..I just looked at it like okay where did he get this..I didnt say nothing to him bcuz he just takes things from work and brings them home..Pretty much steals it if he has a good chance to take..So i dont know if it was meant for me or if its a sign trying to tell me he is cheating on me..ladies and april I need help….lol thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Because you have a daughter and you live together, you need to ask him if he wants to stay together and if he does, why he cheated on you? You need to open the communication channel and start communicating more about what’s really going on between the two of you. You must have an idea of what needs of his are not getting met in the relationship and what your responsibility for them is. What are you willing to change?

His text is a cry for communication. Accept his not so graceful offer to communicate and talk to him about what he wants from you, from himself and from your family together.

That’s where you can start.

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