[Anonymous]

So i started talking to a guy i have known for about 6 months. He was my teacher for my EMT intermediate class. Im 20 years old and he is 29 years old. During class we were both in serious relationships. He was engaged and she ended up cheating on him and many other things were done to hurt him. I was in a serious relationship with a long term boyfriend, we had been talking about looking at rings in the next 6 months. Things took a serious downward spiral between us. And thats when my teacher and i started talking outside of class. First it was just friendly, but even though he was engaged and i was in a serious relationship when we had first met, i had always had a little bit of a crush on him. One of his friends that is closer to my age asked about me, and he was going to try to set things up between us, but to be honest, i would never be interested in him or anybody too close to my age. Guys that are in their early 20’s are just too immature for me. Thats when i told him i was actually really into him. He was really surprised and seemed really happy about it. We started talking daily, as much as possible. And then he got worried about the age difference. I convinced him to give it a chance and see how mature i am. We had a date planned and i knew my parents would not go for me dating a 29 year old so i said he was 27. Well my dad didnt go for that either and told me i was no longer allowed to talk to him. Him and i talked about it, and he was definitely upset about it, but was very mature in my opinion and said he felt he should respect my dads request. We still talked some for awhile, i was extremely depressed and started drinking daily and didnt want to even see my dad. My teacher and i decided to try to see other people since my dad was throwing such a fit. He told me i had to choose between my dad and this guy. We both tried dating other people. I couldnt find anybody i was interested in. He went on like 2 dates with some girl, and then that ended. We started talking again. Now our mutual friend has talked to him and he told her, that he really does like me a lot, but he isnt ready for a serious relationship again and he doesnt want to hurt me, since he can tell i am. But now that we are talking again and cant resist each other, i want to see him and were talking about me sleeping over every once in a while, as i work night shift and my parents would think i was at work. I dont know if he really is into me, or if maybe he thinks ill be easy, and will just try to get in my pants and then move on to another girl…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you stop talking to him then you probably will lose interest in him — which is a good thing since you’re living with your parents, so [i]that[/i] relationship has to trump your dating life. 😕

Make your dating life more important by not settling for Mr. RIght Now. But in order to find Mr. Right, you have to get your own life in order. It’s really great that you’re studying to be an emergency medical technician, and with a career underway, it’s time for you to start looking for your own apartment, too! You can have female roommates if you need to share the rent, or not, if you can afford the rent on your own.

Once you’re living on your own, your relationship with your parents won’t be so intimate. They won’t be overseeing every date or relationship you have because you’ll be out of their house.

So for now, my advice is to stop talking to him, and just date people who won’t drive you to drink everyday because your parents don’t like them! 😮 When you get your own life together and have your own place, then you can experiment more with men who are in their mid to late twenties.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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