[judoono]

Hi i recently met this girl at school and i envited her to hang out with some friends at a local college lounge. I heard from a someone else that she has a boyfriend, so wen she came by herself i was cautious on how i should act. After a while she ended leaving the lounge to get a bite to eat somewhere else, so i went and kept her company. We werent aloud back in the lounge since she got a meal from somewhere else, so we sat down outside and she said “ima go home” really fast, but she made conversation with me instead and started eating her meal. I found it strange at first but the conversations carried on and the conversation was a mix of her/my life story and something personal to something really light. eventually i walked her to her car and before she could open the door we started talking again but this time i regretfully answered a personal question truthfully and explained why i lie to keep it private from everyone else. she understood why and to be honest i didnt wanna lie to her although i feel like i could have waited for a 2nd meet up to tell her. we could have continued to talk outside her car if i hadnt said ” you should go becuase im keeping you here” she had previously mentioned she had a busy weekend. Not once the entire night has she mentioned she had a boyfriend or was even seeing someone and i never asked specifically if she did, i just asked what does she do on the weekends. I texted her a few times the next day and called it short since i didnt know what to say. I barely had a chance to say anything to her at school the following week so i called and envited her to hang out again the following day. she said yes that night but due to how complicated it was going to be she said maybe the day of and didnt even contact me later on to let me know she really couldnt. at this point its still early but i feel like im already in the wind. i dont know what to do or what to say. im told to give her space and see if i can speak to her at school on monday but if i cant then what do i do for the rest of the week. i dont have much time since shes going on vacation soon. i wanna make an impact for when she comes back ill be sure will see each other again. Im also too nervous to call and dont know when i should call since she has a boyfriend. i dont want her to cheat on him i just want to establish a friendship and maybe in the future date her when shes looking for someone new. A friend told me maybe she came that night becuase she is searching for someone else and just cant leave her boyfriend untill shes certain. My personal opinion of her is that she doesnt want to cheat but i keep catching her looking my way in class from the corner of my eye wether she speaks to her friend at the same time or not. she manages to play it off like shes not looking at me when i sit one row back. I feel an attraction from her and i feel like shes distant at the same time. I wanna envite her out again and spend more time with her i just dont want to loose contact since im the type to never call or just not call at the rite time.there are different ways on how to handle this im just not sure what they are….

[Ask April Masini]

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I think she likes you, and if she DOES have a boyfriend, she’ll let you know. But until or unless she does, you should assume she’s datable and ask her out on a date. Don’t be afraid because of rejection. Instead, know that you can’t win her over if you don’t get up to bat — so just do it! You’ll feel a lot better if you do ask her out rather than trying to figure out if she’ll say yes — without even asking. 😕 Instead of hanging out, plan to take her to the movies or on a hike or bowling or something that requires an activity that you can share together. This takes the pressure off of your conversational skills because instead of having to conjure up conversation, the shared activity gives you something to talk about automatically.

I hope this helps. Let me know how it goes.

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