[Anonymous]

Hello everyone out there.
I have a unique situation on my hands. Me and my long term live in boyfriend broke up after 3 years, he moved out and we are still talking. We had plans to go on vacation before he left, and recently we have decided that we would still go. He still talks to me through text messaging and goes for a coffee with me once a week. He tells me he doesn’t want to get back together and that the trip would be fun but he has no intention on rekindling our relationship. The trip consists of us driving for 12 hours accross country and then spending 7 whole days together.
Alot of people I know think that no man would travel with a woman for that long and spend that much time with her if he didn’t have some thought of getting back together. I know no one here can read his mind, but I am just so confused as to why he would want to travel with me and not think about getting back together once it was all over.

Also I should add recently he slept with his ex before me, and has slept with her 3 times now. I don’t know if he is using her as a cluch to get over me, however he still wants to go on a trip. Can anyone out there make sense of this for me. PLEASE HELP MY CONFUSED BRAIN!

[Ask April Masini]

If he’s telling you he wants to go on a long drive and a week of camping with you, you can assume he’s planning on sleeping with you during that trip. If he’s also telling you, concurrently, that he doesn’t want to get back together with you, what he’s REALLY telling you is that he wants to sleep with you, but date and sleep with other women, too.

Your knowledge that he slept with his ex-girlfriend recently since your break up is more evidence that he’s looking to play around without commitment and he’s going to women he’s comfortable with sexually, first.

If this is something you’re interested in, then he’s ready and willing — but don’t mistake his offer as a chance to rekindle your relationship. This is strictly his offer to camp with benefits.

I hope that helps you decide what to do.

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