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My name is Jennifer and I’m 20 years old, i have a child hood friend sam who’s 26 years old. We lost contact not until early last year. He had a fiancé; he told me they were not getting married again because she cheated on him. I developed feels for him and also told him i loved him but he never took me seriously, neither did show such affection for me as i did towards him (never in a relationship friend with benefit). But i wanted more of a relationship. He told me he was done with his ex but at the same time keeps calling her and going over to see her. He told me the only talk and drink; but i think it’s was more than just talking and drinking. This went on for over a year with me getting hurt and crying. i finally found someone who i care about but i love Sam is more. i decided to tell Sam that i m about to get into a relationship with someone call Paul, he told me to go be with Paul; that his ok with it. Now I’m in a serious relationship with Paul. He started telling me he loves me and wants to be with me and marry me. He also said i should break up with Paul and come be with him. i asked him, why he didn’t let me know before now which is over a year we have been messing with each other. he said his best friend told him not to tell me! This is creating a problem between me and Paul for communicating with Sam and insecurity for Paul. I don’t know what to believe? Do you think he was having sex with his ex or others while i was with him? How do i get over him if i have to?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think the first guy, Sam, has never been very interested in you and is just interested in using you. Men have sex because they can, and if you participate in a friends with benefits relationship, you’re going to get hurt. As you have with Sam.

My advice is to stay far away from Sam and try to figure out why you feel attached to someone like him, who lies and cheats on you. 😳 If you don’t stay away from Sam, you’ll lose Paul. If you don’t want to date Paul, it’s a lot healthier to just stop dating him, instead of creating drama by staying in contact with someone like Sam.

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