Hey April and others. So I posted about a breakup I went through back in August and now I might be getting this girl back. I need advice on how to proceed.
My ex-girlfriend (21) of a year and a half and I (23) recently started talking again after being broken up for the last 5 months. The first 3 apart were no contact and the 4th was very little.
The reason for the split was her being tired of being in a relationship and she had also started hanging out with her high school flame again for a few weeks and went on vacation with him without telling me for a week before she came back and dumped me. From what I can tell, she’s been casually seeing this guy ever since, but they’ve never made it official.
I never wronged this girl in any way. I loved her with all my heart and gave her everything I could and she knows that. I just made things a little too easy. (It might also be important to mention that were each others first loves and sexual partners.)
Last month we hung out for the first time since the split when she came to a concert of mine and it was completely comfortable like nothing bad even happened. We just had an awesome night hanging out as friends.
I didn’t see her for about three weeks after that until she randomly called me a few days before Xmas to celebrate her 21st birthday with her. We ended up being all couply and made out that night. This past weekend we ended up hanging out again and went to grab a drink. We ended up being all couply again that night even more so than the week before and confessed how much we missed each other. We ended up going back to my place and having sex and then just cuddled and talked about a bunch of good memories of being together for the next few hours.
I thought we might be starting to get on the road to getting back together. But…
On Sunday she posted a picture of a super romantic gift with the caption “Cutest gift ever” followed by a bunch of icons like this… The gift was totally not from me. So I asked her about it because It had me a little confused. This is how the conversation went…
Me: So friday was a lot of fun
Ex: Haha ya it was
Me: glad you came to hang out. haha.
can i ask you something though?
Ex: Ya sure
Me: saw that pic on instagram of the bear and stuff.
???
Ex: Ok?
Me: are you seeing somebody?
Ex: Lol no it was just a silly present
Me: o haha ****. i feel like a dumbass
Ex: Lol
Me: i’m sorry haha. i just kinda saw that and was like what?
Ex: Ya cheating isn’t really my thing
But
I’m not tied down to any one person
Me: ok. i wasnt saying that. i know that. i give you the right to slap me next time we hang out
haha
im sorry
She didn’t respond after that and we haven’t spoken since.
So I don’t really know what to think. Did I mess things up by asking her that? I feel like I had a right to know considering I’m not just some random new guy trying to date her. I’m the guy she planned on marrying not too long ago.
And does it seem like she wants to come back to me? Some of my friends say it sounds like she might but now she’s just conflicted because she’s had this casual thing going and never expected to start seeing me again. But now I’ve come back into the picture and she doesn’t know what to do. Cause she obviously still has feelings for me.
I know it might not be the best idea, but I still really love her and want to give things another shot.
So let me know how I should go about this people. Do I say something to her again or just wait till she talks to me again?
