Pregnancy isn’t just complicated for women — the father is emotionally invested, as well. He probably feels guilty, sad, angry and a host of other emotions, too, and he is having trouble sorting them out. They’re coming out in all different directions at different times, and often the wrong emotions are directed at the wrong people.
What YOU need is support, and you may not be able to get it from him because he isn’t capable of it at his age. So look around at who you CAN get support from. My suggestions are: Your parents, your siblings, your family members, your clergy, your friends and their families. Ask your doctor and the people who are helping arrange your adoption for support groups specific to teenage mothers who are giving babies up for adoption — and then GO to the meetings where you’ll not only get support, but you’ll meet other teenagers like yourself in the same and similar situations as you are.
You’re going to feel a lot better if you can talk about what you’re going through with other people. If your boyfriend isn’t available, keep looking elsewhere.
I hope that helps — let me know how it goes.
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