[naughtyinnaples]

Dear April,

I am a young man who needs your help. About 6 months ago I met this girl at a nightclub and we went to my hotel. Yes we had sex (unprotected sex) as she said that she could not get pregnant. I gave her my e-mail address and cell phone number. A few months passed and I reveived a text and it said “I am pregnant!” She said that she had not been with anyone else in the past 2 years so she knew that it was mine due to the timing and everything.

Now I had a friend that this sort of thing happened to years ago so luckily, I was playing defense and always do when I meet women in clubs and soforth. The e-mail I gave was only accessed at a local Kinko’s and through a disposable “go-phone” (and ther number I gave her) recharged in person with cash. Do you think that she can get a soepena for the hotel to get my credit card info? I used a fake name, address, and phone number there but NOT a debit card. She says that she is going for child support but I have other things I need such as a trip to Vegas, a motorcycle, and nose job. Supporting a “bundle of skin” for 18 years will put a crimp on the social and sex life. To what extent can a Private investigator, Lawyer, The State and the Law go through to track me down? I suppose I should learn my lesson and stop “blowing my wad in women” but have been lucky up to this point.

Your comments, questions, and advice is greatly appreciated!

Go Obama!

Jake Rennes

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, you’re asking me a legal question — and I’m not a lawyer! So anything I tell you has to be read as if you’re asking a relationship advice expert — not an attorney. 😉 However… yes, as a relationship expert, I believe that your information can be subpoena-ed by a court in an effort to perform a paternity test and collect child support. If there are costs involved in finding you — you will probably be on the hook for those, as well. And, there’s the possibility that you can be held in contempt for obstructing justice by making it hard for her to find you — which is not something you want because, depending on your state, the court, the judge and your level of obstruction, there’s not just financial punishment, but jail time associated with this finding. 😕 But my real advice is to contact a lawyer and ask your legal questions there.

Second, while you did have unprotected sex, you should consider the possibility that you’re not the only guy she had unprotected sex during a one night stand, and that the baby (if she truly is pregnant) may or may not be yours. So, before you jump to conclusions, ask for a paternity test.

Third, I hope you’ll reconsider that a child is a little more than “a bundle of skin” and that if this is your child, in addition to your responsibilities, you also have an opportunity to raise him or her and be part of his or her life. I sincerely doubt that, if this is your child, he or she will consider you “a bundle of skin”. You’ll be the father.

And lastly, I’m not even going to pass judgment on your financial priorities, but I will suggest that if you need more money than you have, that you get a better job to earn it. 😉

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[naughtyinnaples]

April,

Thanks for the reply. I was thinking that you may not post this as I know that you are a “right winger” and my actions do fall in the “liberal” category. Your legal thought process is very enlightening and sounds like Robert Shapiro himself.

There is a second part to my need for “relationship” help. Can you give me your thoughts on it as well? Not sure what I would do without your helpful site!

I met this girl on a Website called Millionaire Match a few years ago. She lived by her mother in a city in Southwest Florida while I lived in another part of the state. We went on a date to Capital Grill and had a great meal and thoughful conversation. After dining we went back to her house for more conversation, some coffee, and a nightcap. While there I got to hear her rants on liberals, gays, and gun control. The date ended with a promise to see me again. I was asked to follow up in a day or two so we could plan to meet again. This woman was a very outspoken, complicated blond. This is the kid of women I like. After leaving a few messages there was no return call. Hmmmmm I said so I sent her a fax and lo and behold I got a “Dear John” letter the next day. Now the reason for me telling you this is that I now live very very close to her. It has been 3-4 years so do you think I should try and see if she changed her mind? You do realize that the human species would have been extinct for 100’s of thousands of year if man did not give up on his first attempt to mate with the opposite sex.

I do look forward to your response,

X

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sure! Try her again. You never know. 😉

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