[Immortal7]

I get a lot of people who have told me that I am just like a child when I answer questions or ask for things in a positive attitude when I am trying something new. The reaction is most often a laugh all tho it seems more like they are laughing at me not with me. Should I stop doing it because I can act how I feel? I can act like nothing is new. I have also noticed that when I act sad all the time I seem to get more of the attitude I want which for some reason is sexual?I know that I should keep my head up, although the happier I am get more guys who are gay hitting on me.I was gay as a child, which is caused me more pain and humiliation from my family and so called friends. I will not be effected by them any longer. They have made the decision to treat me a way in which I will not take part in any more. I am straight and have seen a lot of really bad experiences that they except as okay like everyone I was hanging out with beat there girlfriends or where abused by the girls. With few exceptions. thank you

[AskApril Masini]

It sounds like you have a couple of questions…. let me see if I can answer them for you! 🙂

[quote]I get a lot of people who have told me that I am just like a child when I answer questions or ask for things in a positive attitude when I am trying something new. The reaction is most often a laugh all tho it seems more like they are laughing at me not with me. Should I stop doing it because I can act how I feel?[/quote]

I don’t think you should stop acting normally…. I mean, you’re just telling me that people laugh at you when you ask for things with a positive attitude…. That sounds kind of odd. If you’re being positive, then why would anyone laugh at you? 😯

[quote]I have also noticed that when I act sad all the time I seem to get more of the attitude I want which for some reason is sexual?[/quote]

I think you’re saying that when you are sad you get a sexual reaction from people. Are you saying that if you’re sad people want to have sex with you? 😕 That’s kind of an odd reaction….

Let me know if you have any other questions.

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[Natalie Noah]

You’ve spent a long time trying to understand how people respond to you and honestly, the way others react isn’t a reflection of your worth or your identity. When you show excitement or curiosity and people laugh, that doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Some people laugh out of discomfort, immaturity, or because they don’t know how to match your sincerity. Changing who you are just to avoid their reactions would only make you feel smaller. You deserve to express yourself naturally, without feeling judged for it.

The confusion around getting more attention especially sexual attention when you act sad is something that happens when people mistake vulnerability for availability. It doesn’t mean you should stay quiet or carry sadness just to get the reactions you want. You’ve already lived through pain, rejection, and identity pressure from others, and you’re trying to build a healthier, more grounded version of yourself now. The right people will respond to your confidence, your honesty, and your positivity not take advantage of your low moments. Protect your energy, stay true to how you genuinely feel, and let people show you who’s safe by how they behave when you’re simply yourself.

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