This really isn’t very complicated. You met a woman in another country, online I’m guessing, and have never met in real life over the 7-8 years you’ve been in an online relationship with each other. Now, you’re upset that she was dating other guys. You’ve hinted that you want to spy on her with technology, and that you know this isn’t healthy, but you’re devastated and think that this might help you regain trust.
Here’s the reality. It’s not fair for you to expect her to be faithful to you over the course of 8 years without a single date or even meeting once. Long distance relationships require a lot of flexibility and understanding — and if you don’t have that, they won’t work out. She feels betrayed that you never came to visit her. You feel betrayed that she dated other guys. I’d call it a wash. You’ve both disappointed each other.
That said, I think you should really understand that if you want a serious commitment from a woman, you have to show yours by showing up — and if you can’t, then it isn’t the right time for the relationship. 😉
I hope that helps.
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