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i talked to my ex (we were together for 3 years) and he asked me to have his baby. we have techinically been split since sep after 3 years BUT WE HAVE STILL DEALT WITH EACH OTHER AND HE ALWAYS TOLD ME HE WANTED TO WORK IT OUT WITH ME SO THATS WHAT WE WERE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING. the plan was that jan 1st we were going to get back together because 2 weeks ago i told him i was giving him 2 weeks to do wat he wanted to get it out his system. however, recently, he admitted that he was with another female for the past 4 months and even took her to the movies. i got mad and stopped responding so he texted that same female IN FRONT OF MY FACE! he also told me that he has a problem which makes him always get new numbers from different females even when he’s in a relationship. he said that he’s always going to get new numbers no matter what.

i got really mad and punched him in the face (ONE TIME) and we fought and he pulled my hair and repeatedly punched me in the face over and over again and now i have a black eye. he told me that its no point in goin to the hospital because they’re only going to give me an icepack. also, later that day he said he didnt feel like talking to me. talk about feeling crushed and stupid! i know i hit him first (one time) but he has hit me first PLENTY OF TIMES in the past (this year) and i never gave him a black eye so i felt it was unfair. he said he didnt mean to give me a black eye.

i feel so stupid, low, and absolutely worthless! now here i am with a black eye stuck in the house on new years eve for a week and he still talking to the girl he was with for 4 months and replaced me just that fast. i cant believe it. it still seems unreal. i know i should never speak to him again in life and so starting right now im going to do just that and get counseling because i have no one to help me through this. absolutely no one! its just heartbreaking that he told me he still loves me and wanted me to have his baby but yet he told me he was with another female (who’s only 18 and we’re almost 21). im so depressed about that that i was thinking about killing myself. i just dont even know where to begin to pick up the pieces of my broken heart.

PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I DONT REALLY WANT TO KILL MYSELF BUT THE PAIN FROM THIS HEART BREAK IS KILLING ME AND I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO GET THROUGH THIS! HELP ME PLEASE! IM SITTING WITH A BOTTLE OF PILLS RIGHT NOW THINKING ABOUT TAKING THE WHOLE BOTTLE.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First and foremost, I want you to pick up the telephone and call a suicide hotline. If you’re considering suicide you need help that is specific to your problem. If you can’t find a number, call your local police and ask them for one.

Second, you need to go to the police and file a report about your assault. It doesn’t matter that it’s a few days since the attack. Just do it.

Third, your ex-boyfriend is a loser. Stay away from him. He doesn’t know how to treat you or to behave, himself. He’s no good for you, and you deserve a man who appreciates you and will show his appreciation in his behavior.

In order for you to get in a good relationship that is healthy and happy, you need to learn how to stay away from bad guys, as well as inappropriate and incompatible men who are a waste of your time, and, frankly, you of theirs. If a man hits you, or any woman, you can chalk him off your list of people you give the time of day to. If a man tries to make you jealous by texting other women in front of you, you can chalk him off your list of people you give the time of day to, too!

Lastly, do not have or consider having any ex-boyfriend’s baby right now. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost. A pregnancy would be too much of a burden for you at this time. You need to help yourself before you can be with anyone else.

Please let me know how you’re doing after you contact a suicide hotline and the police.

Good luck!

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