[StoryOfALonelyGuy]

Hello all,

I’m a 20 year old guy who’s been seeing this particular girl for about a year. We went through a 3 month period of not being together after dating for over 6 months. The reasons for our break up were that I was too ‘intense’. This was mainly due to my previous relationship lasting over 2.5 years and being a LDR it required a lot of effort and that attitude was engrained into my system and I put that on my new girlfriend too soon.

So we spent time apart but worked on things, did not see other people, and now have gotten back together, and I have never been happier.

I just want to make sure I am able to take things slow enough to not make her too feel like I am being too intense, but also to keep her interested, which I am just inherently nervous about due to ex-gf’s in the past cheating.

Up to this point I feel as though I have been too available, and I know that was a mistake, I just could use some advice on finding the line between being too available and being too distant.

Thank you all!

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

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