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part 1 In April my friend met someone through a common friend in Calcutta. He works in a law firm in Bangalore and she works in Calcutta. Now for work purpose he travels to Calcutta quite often.They became very good friends. They used to talk regularly over phone. Now They are a couple. They are getting close. They have talked a lot and they have shared a lot. The problem lies herein ie they have overshared. She knows about his past and he about her. She knows about his ex girlfriends (ie 2) and his female friends. It was a big mistake on my friend’s behalf to share so much with her. She has real doubts, fears and apprehensions about him. She told my friend that she strongly loves him but doubts him that he cannot and does not love her in the same manner as the guy had serious relationships before. Unlike the guy she had one serious boyfriend. She feels like 2nd rated version as she is not her first girlfriend (she did not said this but meant this). She is very insecured and cannot believe the guy though in real life she is quite confident. They do have good chemistry and compatibility and she has many fine qualities. Yes it is still very early. They had lot of problems now they broke up? He is supposed to visit her city for some work in September. Ultra short relationship and acceptance problem about the past ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Do you have a question for me?

[Eric Morgan]

Your job is not to write the history of his life, but to make his “today” so beautiful that he forgets all the old memories. When you repeatedly mention his “ex”, you yourself remind him. Don’t compare men with ghosts.
A man always runs after what he can’t have. Be a little “mysterious”; spilling everything can be friendship, not love.
April was absolutely right when he said that when September comes, instead of crying, meet him as a “high-value woman”.

[Member]

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