[Lovebianca]

So me and this guy from my home town, we talking for like two months straight and I fell completely in love with him and he didn’t know it. He told me he didn’t want to catch feelings because I was leaving and that was it. We stopped talking for like 3 months and then I went back home to visit and we started talking again and he’s like was telling me why did I have to leave and we just stopped talking for almost two months.. And I finally went home again but this time I was dating another guy. But me and the guy I was dating had hit rock bottom. And so me so I went to hang out with that guy from back home, and we had sex and he didn’t know that I had a bf.. But I know I shouldn’t have done that but I couldn’t let go cause I finally had got him he was all I could think about and he was the reason why me and boyfriend had hit rock bottom.. And so when I left my home town he stopped talking to me out of no where and once I got back me and my boyfriend broke up for good. And my supposedly best friend told my ex that I cheated. And the guy back at home found out everything and he thought he was the rebound guy but he isn’t I’m in love with him since the first day I met him and he never wanted to date me cause of long distance but so I didn’t know what to do. So that night I finally had him I couldn’t let go.. And now it’s been like two months since I talked to the guy from back home. I can’t stop thinking about him and how much I hurt him I never meant to hurt, even though he’s hurt me plenty of times I never meant to do that to him. And I really want to talk to him but I don’t know what to say so this is why I’m coming to you to tell me what to say

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like the long distance issue was a big deal for this guy you really like and that the fact that you cheated on your boyfriend with this guy, wasn’t really the issue — the long distance was because now that you’re broken up with your boyfriend, this guy still isn’t asking you out, and he’s been pretty clear that he doesn’t want to date you because of the distance. I know he mentioned his not wanting to be a rebound boyfriend upon learning of your breakup, but I think the long distance issue is his main problem.

I know you really like this guy and you’re disappointed that he doesn’t share your feelings, but sometimes that’s just how life works out. We can’t always have what we want when we want it. I think the best thing for you to do is to be single and get out there and flirt, date and play the field in the city where you live so you can feel supported, heal and get over the break up so you don’t make dating decisions based on replacing the boyfriend as much as finding someone who’s compatible and great. 😉

[Lovebianca]

Hello so I’m in the military, and I just had checked in to my new until in the beginning of March, and I didn’t really know any of the people I worked with or talked to anyone. And once I got my car this one guy name Brandon I worked with and I started giving him rides and we started texting and then me and him hung out for the first time and we instantly clicked and we kissed. Everything was going good in the beginning and I fell for him. And now he tells me he wants his space so I told him id back off but the reason I tried to rush thing and always bugging to see him is because he gets out of the military on the 26 of May so he doesn’t have long here so that’s why I bugged him about seeing him he would tell me he liked me and that he loves spending time with me but then he just started being weird I asked him about it and that’s when he said he wanted his space, but I miss him and want to talk to him I don’t want to let him go just like that but I don’t know what to do I don’t want to just throw myself at him and I know he won’t reach out to me cause he has too much pride in himself

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You like him — but he doesn’t really want to see you. 😳 He’s asked for space — but what he really wants is to cut off the relationship altogether. He’s just being polite. My advice is to move on. It’s much easier in life to put your energy towards people who like you and want to date you than it is towards people who aren’t interested. 😉

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