[Reeti]

I am a libra girl falling for a leo man a second time. We met at college and became best friends. Then he went to UK for 2 years. I got to know then that he was seeing someone. We both stalked each other on fb but conversation almost died. Now, seven years later, we met again. His GF is married now, I broke up with my BF. The conversation flows as easily as seven years back. He said that love just ended with his ex, even before she got married. Four years back I had also proposed to him through text and he never replied. In the interim we just sent birthday cards and nothing else. He said sorry for not replying to that message. He says something or the other kept happening in his life and he wrote and discarded the message he meant to sent me. He says he missed our conversations and that after every couple of weeks, he would think about the message he never sent. We met a couple of times, goofed around and now he texts so frequently. I think I am falling for him yet again. I found it so hard to get over him the last time, I almost went into depression. Is he interested in me as a friend or does he love me? I am not sure what to do? I don’t want to say I am falling for you again because the last time I did something like that we ended up not saying much to each other for the longest time. I like him too much to let him go a second time. Yet I don’t want to be hurt a second time. Any advice?

[AskApril Masini]

Play it cool. 😉 Don’t ask him how he feels about you. Instead, wait and watch his behavior and you’ll know much more clearly what he’s interested in. If he asks you out on a date, and continues to date you, he’s going to be interested in dating you. If he just texts and flirts with you and doesn’t really make an effort to get together with you on any kind of regular or meaningful basis, he’ll be a guy who is interested in you when it’s convenient, but not ready or willing to make the effort to take it to the next level. Also, you didn’t mention why the two of you broke up the first time, and I think it’s important to know that and to be clear about whether anything has changed now so that you don’t repeat an old pattern — that ended painfully for you. I know you want to “do something” now, but the best thing for you to do is to wait to see if he makes a move to take this relationship beyond what it is. I know it’s difficult, but that’s going to be your best bet. 😉

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