[lindaaa1025]

Hello
i’m 22 years old i’ve been with my bf for 2 and a half years
he basically spends too much time with is friends. He goes out
with them more movies, dinner, etc. than he has EVER gone with me
he says that i’m exaggerating and that it isn’t a big deal or a big issue.
I believe that it is obviously. am i wrong??
He is unemployed but I figure that’s not really much of an excuse if he
could find a way to go out with his friends i’m sure he could find a way to
go out with me. or am i being selfish??
Even though i’ve told him since we began dating that i honestly don’t mind
paying for myself or mind paying for him every now and than, i just care of
spending that time alone together. The times we have gone out it’s usually
always his friends, him, and me. ANd the few times it is just him and I is
because it’s my birthday, for our anniversaries we’ve NEVER done anything!
We’ve talked and discussed this issue plenty of times but things don’t seem to
change and they’ve just been the same, i’ve given him a few scarres
as in being on breaks and breaking up because of this, but i don’t think
it’s opened his eyes.. just this past sunday he went out with is friends again
to a dinner and a movie.. we have NEVER done that . the only times when we do
hang out just him and i is when we’re intimate, when i go to his house and watch movies
and thats about it. all the other times its with his friends and me.
how can i REALLY and COMPLETELY get this to change??
how can i make him realize what he’s doing??or am i the one that is wrong here??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can’t turn an apple into an orange. They’re two different fruits.

You’re trying to turn your boyfriend into someone he isn’t. You’re asking, you’re demanding, you’re commanding, you’re yelling — and none of it’s working. Wake up! 😮 It’s not going to work. He is showing you his true colors, and they’re not colors you like.

So why stay with him? 😯

You’re with a man who is not compatible with you. You’re not wrong at all to want what you want. You are wrong, however, to expect this particular man to be the one who gives you what you want. I think you’re bound for a very rocky road if you stay with him.

If I were you, I’d start looking elsewhere for Mr. Right. 💡 Two and a half years is way too long for you to be with someone who doesn’t meet your needs. You’re 22 now, a full fledged adult, and it sounds like you should be dating a man with a job, who relishes his time with you enough to want to take you out because he feels he’s lucky to do so! ❗

Value yourself enough to consider yourself a prize that a man will chase all over to try and win. What you’ve done is throw yourself at this guy — and demand things he isn’t willing to offer. You’re not even the booby prize in this scenario. In fact, you’re no prize at all. 😕

So turn it around. ❗ Think & Date LIke A Man is a book you really should read — pronto. Here’s the link where you can get it. [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] It will help you chapter by chapter and page by page to understand the way you have to change your thinking and your behavior to live the life you want with a man.

Good luck! 🙂

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