[Anonymous]

Hello,

I am an almost 20 year old girl. Since I started university in October I have become very good friends with a boy of the same age. We spend a lot of time together, both in groups and with only each other. Over the past month I have developed very serious feelings for him. Since we became friends we have kissed a few times but they have always been in a night club or drunken environment and something we have joked about the next day. Quite often when I am watching a film with him, for example, all I can think about is kissing him, or if he comes to my bedroom in the evenings (which he started doing every night) I think about how great it would be if I was his girlfriend. In the past I would always tell him about boys in my life, but now I am not interested in kissing anyone else, and the one time I did I imagined it was him the entire time.

The problem is that he can be somewhat peculiar about this kind of thing, he hates people being clingy and has said that he isnt a very good boyfriend.

Now I am home for the holidays, the only thing I can think about is him. I could very easily see him over the holidays, but I don’t know if I should say something to him, my fear being that he doesnt feel the same way and it affects our friendship, which is the last thing I want to happen. I would rather remain great friends with him than tell him and lose him. However, I wish there was some way to tell if he felt the same way.

Should I be honest and risk my friendship with him or should I keep silent and save the great friendship we have.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When a woman wants a man’s romantic attentions, the best way to do this is not to act like a friend and “have a talk” or tell him, point blank, how you feel. The best way to dial up the romance in a platonic relationship is to start acting like a seductress — someone who flirts, implies, and makes a man feel like he WANTS to be the boyfriend. 😎 If you want him to change his behavior, you need to change yours — but don’t give him more of the same friendship behavior. Make this new change be the change where you flirt with him and make him think about you even more than you’re thinking about him!

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes.

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[Anonymous]

Thank you so much for your advice. how would i make him feel like he wants to be a boyfriend?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

By acting like a girlfriend!

Read my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], to get ALL the tips and advice to be the woman men want — specifically this guy. This book will help you transition from platonic buddy to romantic vixen. You’ll learn exactly what to do to get him to want you.

I know it’s going to help, so I hope you’ll read it.

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