[ilikenamitha]

Hello Ms. Masini,

On the way to work a few days ago, I got a lift from a former employee at my workplace. She left a few weeks ago, but when she was there I thought she was cute. I never pursued anything, since recently I have been engrossed in a heavy and important workload.

She has children though, and this to some extent complicates wanting anything further, since I don’t like children that much. I wouldn’t want anything serious, but more of a friends with benefits arrangement.

The thing is, I know she has a Facebook profile, so is it acceptable to send her a friend request and use this to build up to what I want? Do you think she would accept my request? I think she considers me, since at work she always would say hello, and obviously is kind enough to give me lifts. I just don’t want to come off a creep here, but she is pretty so I don’t want to let this situation slip.

Thanks in advance for your comments!

[Lynette59]

Don’t do it! What if you fell for her and there you are in a sticky situation and worse if you don’t then your intentions are to use her “she is a mother” if you want a friend with benefits then find a current friend for that or go find someone obviously only looking for that too but without kids.

[ilikenamitha]

thanks for your comment.

I can easily separate sex from love though, so i’m not sure if i will fall for her.

[Missladyt_17]

I agree, I do not think that she would want the same as you, due to the fact that she has children. She will be looking for a positive influence for her children and what you are wanting does not do that. Leave her be and find someone else. You do not like kids, so do not start something that you do not intend to finish.

Your motivates seem pretty selfish to me, it is about what you what and not her. Please leave her alone, you have nothing to offer this young lady.

[ebonypittman88]

yes., it can be easy for you to separate love from sex, but she is a woman, with children. please consider that she being pretty is not a reason, she is a fragile creature that needed to be cared, given enough affection and strength specially these days that she is trying to raise her children alone…

if you constantly get into her, you will deprive her of time that she can work, spend time with her children and giving her fake memories of happiness with you.

yes there are many liberated women but please do not stereotype…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]The thing is, I know she has a Facebook profile, so is it acceptable to send her a friend request and use this to build up to what I want?[/quote]

Yes. I think it’s acceptable.

[quote] Do you think she would accept my request?[/quote]

I don’t know. You’ll have to ask her. 😉

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[Rosha]

Well, we’re not the ones who can answer that for sure. It’s better if you just try sending her a friend request and see if she accepts it. If she doesn’t, then try approaching her personally and ask for her number so you can start talking properly from there.
There are many ways to do it—just keep trying 🙂

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