When the same fight happens over and over, you’re actually at an advantage because you have an opportunity to look at the pattern and decide where you can break it. 😉 Since you can only control yourself, my advice is that you stop doing the same thing you’ve been doing that seems to lead to the same relationship dynamic over and over and this time, do something differently.
Getting insulted at her question isn’t making life easier, so instead of getting insulted, try and understand why she feels the need to know why you didn’t answer the phone, and [i]even if you don’t agree with her logic, decide to work on the bigger picture, not the smaller one! [/i] This next time she does the same thing, you can tell her you’re so sorry she was worried and that you’d never do anything to intentionally upset her. Tell her why you didn’t pick up the phone and tell her you’re going to work on getting better at doing what she wants. Frankly, if picking up the phone once every six to eight months is all you’re fighting over, during the course of a very good four year relationship, I’d advise you to pick up the phone! The cost to you of doing so seems low and the cost of not doing it is high enough to bother you.
In relationships it’s important to not always be right. Sometimes doing what the other person wants will get you a bigger pay off in the long run than being right in the short run! 😉
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