You’re asking me a very broad question. The answer to the question, what should I do?, depends on [i]what you want[/i] in life. 😉 Once you know what you want, then you can do what you need to do to get it. 😀 So, if what you want is a man who is going to be loyal and committed to you, then you have to find one. What you found here is a man who is committed to a relationship with a married woman, and it sounds like part of his attraction to her is that she supports him financially. So if you know that that’s what he’s looking for in a relationship, decide if that’s something you’re willing to do — or compete against her, for. 😉 If you don’t want a man who’s looking to be financially supported by a woman, then consider that he’s not a great match for you. You can have feelings for a man, but it doesn’t mean you’re well suited for the long run (or sometimes, even the short run!).
You wrote in the title of your post that there is a second woman intervention, but the reality is that [i]you’re[/i] the second woman. 😕 He was dating her first — you intervened in their relationship, and continued to invest time and energy in it. I know it’s hard for you to see it that way because she’s married, but for your boyfriend and his married girlfriend, the relationship seems to work. He’s made it clear that he’s not going to give her up. If you decide to, you can compete with her and try to win him over, but it sounds like you’re just angry at him for choosing her over you. 😳
Dating is competitive, and when you start dating someone, you should have an idea of what it is you want for yourself, the relationship, in a man, etc. Use the dating process to decide if the person you’re dating is that person. If you find someone is committed to someone else, and you want monogamy, and don’t want to compete, or feel you can’t compete, then you should probably move on and find someone who will be a better match.
I hope that helps you. Let me know how things go.
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