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    Member #373,250

    Dear Ms. Masini:

    I am employed with a company that has two different sites about 45 minutes apart. And on rare occasions, I get to work with this one girl, who has become a muse (I’ve written 10 new songs in three weeks so far). Due to the age difference, however, I am 99.9 percent certain I would not have a chance in the universe, which I’m okay with. Yet, there is a part of me that would still like to somehow anonymously let her know she’s been a muse to someone. If for no other reason than to potentially make her day. What I don’t know is if there is a way to do so without spooking her.

    Any ideas/suggestions/thoughts?

    Thank you for your time.

    Peace.

    #32385

    Send her one of your songs! 🙂 Or some flowers and a poem.

    #32386
    Guild
    Member #373,250

    😆 This is my laugh for the day, and it’s great! The reasons being that it’s not what I expected, and sending flowers/poetry is right up my alley!

    I don’t have the songs properly recorded yet, so I’ll have to wait on that.

    Though I want to remain anonymous, do you think I should have the flowers delivered on Valentine’s Day, or wait until later in the month, when I know we’ll be working together?

    #32387

    Don’t send them on Valentine’s Day unless you want to pursue her romantically — besides, they may get mixed in with gifts from other admirers on that day. Do it this week or next.

    #32388
    Guild
    Member #373,250

    Thank you for the light!

    One last question, if I may. You don’t seem to think flowers are too much; why is that?

    #32389

    I just don’t. That’s me. But you can go the range from a single sunflower to an arrangement. Your style, your choice.

    #32391
    Guild
    Member #373,250

    Gotcha.

    Thanks again!

    #32393

    You’re welcome.

    #51526
    Sally
    Member #382,674

    Anonymous gestures almost always land wrong, especially at work. They can feel unsettling instead of flattering, because she has no context and no choice in the interaction. What feels gentle to you can feel heavy to someone else.

    If you really want to say something, keep it simple and not secret. Something like, “Hey, I don’t mean this in a weird way, but you have a really positive energy. It made my week.” Then let it go. No follow-up. No expectation.

    And if even that feels like too much, it’s okay to keep this one to yourself and let the songs be the place it lives. Not every feeling needs to be delivered to be real.

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