[Lucky1]

Hey !

Ill cut to it.

I have been secretly seeing someone for over a year and half. Secretly not because I am in a relationship but because she is. Quietly we have been getting together anywhere from twice to three times a week for sex and speak regularly via text and phone over 10 times a day until she gets home. Sometimes the correspondence starts as early as 5am when she is getting ready for work. I am completely ok with the fact that she lives w her high-school sweetheart and they have bought a house together ( a representation of their level of commitment to one another) I am also ok with taking periodic sex breaks so that she can be w her boyfriend and for lack of better words not be walking funny as our relations can get very intense.

I decided to go on a excursion in the middle east about a month and a half ago to spend time doing guy stuff in the desert and take in the sights. I did not correspond w my friend for about 2.5 weeks when she sent me an email telling me she missed – i reciprocated but with limited internet availability i was not able to carry a consistent email conversations.

When I returned (about 6 weeks after i had last seen her) – plans were to get together – after about the second day of being back and our schedules being very busy were not able to see each other. Eventually the 10 times a day correspondence dissipated. I reached out about her potentially being unhappy or perhaps reverting back to a “fully devoted” relationship to her boyfriend – end all be all she denied my suspicions of being unhappy with “us” and simply said she had been very busy.

Honestly Im crazy for her and it kills me not to speak to her often. I am also a serious alpha male who dosnt appreciate needy people or chase women who have pushed them away. ( a lesson learned in highschool)

DO I CHASE?

[AskApril Masini]

It’s really up to you and what you want. If you want to continue this relationship, then you can chase and see if it gets you anywhere. But you have to understand that you’re not her first priority. You’re second fiddle. If she’s busy with her live in boyfriend or her job, you’re not going to be a top priority — and that seems to be the nature of this relationship. If you want to try to get more time with her, you can pursue her, and when she’s got some free time, she will most likely come around again.

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[Lucky1]

April,

Its amazing what a phone call can do – while I was away she was promoted and is working 65 hrs a week. So now that she is a real executive time is limited ( we both graduated college together a year ago) – we are both very competitive people and as I mentioned I am a alpha dude and she has been on the fast track with her co.

I thought id share what I said

” I F***ing miss u – I REALLY f***ing miss you ”

Odd to most as that is hardly romantic but we have a very special relationship and mushy to both of us is a real turn OFF.

Per your advice – I reached out .. but not to far I think it will work out but with limited time on both our ends we may be dragging out special situation forever !

[AskApril Masini]

Good luck! 😀

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