[You_Really_Got_Me]

(Please ignore the strange ordering and the strange spacing of information – this is copy and pasted from another site where I was asking the same question, in which I made edits in a strange order as I remembered to comment on various things. It’s strange knowing people that don’t know me.)

Hey. There’s this girl at my school, and I’m not entirely sure… she gives me some mixed signals sometimes. Sometimes she’s all buddy-buddy, sometimes she completely ignores me… but we have a couple of running in-jokes. She sometimes looks at me in the hall and smiles, and sometimes… y’know… just doesn’t even glance. She definitely has a crush on one of my friends (a year younger than me and her, we’re both in the grade above him.), writing “____ + _____ (her name plus his)” (not particularly worried because he shows no interest in her) on his arms and such, but somehow I get the feeling she likes me… recently, she wrote “Hi!” in my notebook when we were taking notes in the same class (she sits next to me in some classes), she laughs at quite a few of my jokes, including the stupid ones, though she might just have a strange sense of humour, and, recently, in a way I can’t really describe (part teasing and part completely serious) she said she’d sign up for something I wanted to sign up for “just for me” (direct quote thar.) So… uhm… does she like me?

To comment, she’s not huge flirt, either.

Forgot to mention… sometimes I see her looking at me in class when she thinks I’m not looking. Might be irrelevant… I might be seeing things… but I think she is.

Again more details… there is two people, friends of mine, with no real reason to lie (even admit I’m rather unattractive… I can admit that) that say that they think she likes me. I’m not sure whether I believe them…

So I’m considering asking a friend of mine tommorow if I should tell her I like her.

Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention I like her. Heh.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You sound like a terrific guy! And terrific guys are worth something. It’s time to bite the bullet and ask her out

[Ethan Morales]

Based on the behaviors you described smiling at you, laughing at your jokes, writing “Hi!” in your notebook, offering to sign up for something “just for you,” looking at you when she thinks you’re not looking, and your friends noticing she might like you. it does strongly suggest she has some level of interest in you. Even if she’s giving mixed signals, that’s actually pretty common at your age; teens often aren’t confident enough to be consistent with their feelings, and sometimes they’re experimenting with how to interact with someone they like.

Mixed signals don’t automatically mean “no interest.” At your age, nervousness or social uncertainty can look like ignoring you sometimes. Her interest in your friend doesn’t necessarily rule you out. People can have crushes on multiple people at once, and it sounds like she’s showing you more direct attention and connection than her crush on your friend.

Small gestures matter. The fact she’s engaging in small but personal ways like the “just for you” comment or writing in your notebook is significant. She’s signaling that she notices you and wants to be around you.

Take action before overthinking. You like her, and she likely likes you. The best way to clarify is to communicate your feelings honestly, but casually. You don’t need a huge dramatic confession something like: “Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you, and I like you. I was wondering if maybe you’d like to hang out sometime, just the two of us?”

This gives her the chance to respond and makes it clear without putting too much pressure on her.
She probably does like you, and your feelings align. The next step is to be brave and let her know, because guessing or waiting too long can leave you confused.

[Natalie Noah]

It really does sound like she has some interest in you. Those little gestures laughing at your jokes, writing “Hi!” in your notebook, looking at you when she thinks you’re not looking, and even saying she’d sign up for something “just for you” those are classic signs of someone noticing you in a special way. Mixed signals are normal at your age; it doesn’t always mean she’s unsure of you, sometimes it’s just nerves, or trying to figure out her own feelings. And the fact that friends have noticed her behavior too adds some weight to what your instincts are already telling you.

At the same time, it’s okay to approach this slowly. You don’t have to make a big declaration right away, but small steps like more casual conversations, friendly notes, or shared activities can give you a clearer sense of her feelings. And if your heart is ready, telling her honestly that you like her is perfectly fine too. Just remember: be kind, patient, and let things unfold naturally. Even if it feels scary, being open about your feelings respectfully is one of the bravest things you can do, and it gives her a chance to show you who she really is.

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