[athena10101]

I met this guy over the summer at work (he’s a lifeguard, I was a camp counselor pretty cliche huh?). I didn’t talk to him because I was nervous and I thought he was out of my league but towards the end of the summer one of our mutual friends made me start talking to him. We hit it off immediately and I’m 100% sure he reciprocated my feelings. However neither of us made a move because he was about to go into college and I’m still a senior in high school. But one night I plucked up the courage to just ask him out and he said yes. But he ended up getting sick and I had to go on a trip so the thing never happened. We snap chatted the entire trip but it felt pretty one sided (I would initiate the convo all the time) but it was like that before I asked him out too so I think he just doesn’t like texting and when he flirted it was always in person rather than over text. But he ended up going to school and I tried to distance myself knowing there was no hope. But I can’t get him out of my head and I’m still wondering if he wants this to happen or if I’m getting my hopes up. I’m considering asking him out again when he comes home for winter break but I don’t know if I’m just gonna hurt myself. What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should move on. It sounds like you really like him, but he’s just not interested. If he were interested, you’d know it because he’d be more assertive about it. Why not focus on the guys around you and find someone who’s local and interested enough to ask you out? Dating is great because the way you really know that someone is interested is when they invite you on a date. It cuts out the guess work. I’m sorry you’re disappointed, but I think that you’ll find someone great who is interested and does want to date you. 😉

[Swera Khan]

Look, the biggest rule of dating is that actions speak louder than Snapchat. If a guy were really interested in you, he would find some way to meet you or make plans again, even after being sick or if you went on a trip.
And April was right to say that focus on the people you have here instead of that guy who’s away at college and isn’t making an effort.

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