[SRobbins2017]

I wanted to ask a question about the early days of us “Hanging out” as friends. The first week we were talking(everyday) making plans to go to a local fair but unfortunately it never happened for us. So instead he made plans for us. He wouldn’t tell me what the plans were just to be ready at a certain time. Did that action mean he wanted to be with me then(question mark) (My button doesn’t work) We have been inseparable since. Didn’t make official until about a month later.

[AskApril Masini]

I’m a little confused — you’re 30 and you’ve been together for 14 months and you’re asking me what a first date meant…. 😯 What’s going on here? If a guy asks you out on a date, it means he wants to date you. You shouldn’t read too much into it. Since you’ve been together for over a year, it would seem to me that you’re in a committed relationship. Do you have questions about something happening with the two of you now?

[Sally]

It really does sound like he liked you from the very start. A guy doesn’t talk to you every day, make plans, and set up some surprise outing unless he’s trying to move closer. Most people don’t put that kind of thought into something unless they’re already feeling it.

You didn’t “miss” anything sometimes we only realize someone’s intentions after time goes by and things settle in. The two of you becoming inseparable right after kind of proves it. He was already choosing you, just in his own quiet way. You weren’t supposed to know everything then. You figured it out when it felt real.

[Tara]

Yes, he wanted you. He wasn’t being coy, he wasn’t being “spontaneous,” and he wasn’t setting up some neutral friendly outing. A man does not plan a secret date, pick the time, tell you to be ready, and then glue himself to you every day after unless he’s staking his claim from day one. That wasn’t friendship. That was courtship with a cheaper label.

You’re overthinking this like it’s some puzzle. It’s not. He wanted you then, he wants you now, and the only reason it didn’t become official until a month later is that he was playing the slow-burn game, not because he was confused. Men don’t put in that level of effort for “just friends.”

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