[confused singleton]

I met a really lovely guy whiile out dancing one night, we danced together and kissed and exchanged phone numbers. He started texting the next day and we agreed to meet up for lunch the following saturday which went well and the conversation flowed. The following wednesday we met up for a lovely walk on the beach and then went out for a drink followed by more kissing. Then on the following sunday we again went out for lunch and a walk. I drove him home, he asked me in but I declined but texted him and thanked him for a lovely day. We texted a few times during the week and the next week I get a text from him saying the he hadn’t been totally honest, economically anyway, but he was going through a legal separation and that there was too much going on and that he wanted to clear his head, sort things out and then be able to move on and he apologised and hoped I wasn’t mad at him. I said that I was dissappointed but understood completely and hoped that for his sake it would get sorted sooner rather than later and that his heart would heal. I said that if he wanted to talk or go for a jog (we both enjoy jogging) sometime that he had my number. The thanked me a again and said time was a healer and apologised again. Is is likely that he might be in touch again? Should I leave it for a few weeks and contact him to see how he’s doing in a friendly way no strings attached kind of way. I really like him and would love to be there for him and help him through this or should I just leave it all behind me and move on? Never been in this situation and would love some helpful advice. Many Many thanks, N.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

My advise is to let it go. If he contacts you after he is divorced, then that would be the time to consider him a serious contender for your attention. But now, he’s married, and he’s going through a divorce process. It’s not a good idea for you to get involved with someone who’s head, finances, heart, and legal status as a single person are all in flux. You’ll have a much easier time deciding if someone is right for you (and vice versa) if you date someone who’s ready for a relationship in every way.

He has your number. And, metaphorically speaking, you have his, too. 😉

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