[Anonymous]

Hi April, Here is my problem. I have been in-love with the same guy for 8 years. we have dated on and off for 8 years but he has been my best friend sents i was 5. He went to jail last jan. we were together he got 13 months i told him i would wait and he told me not to. we got in a fight and i started seeing other ppl and he was in contact with a few of his ex’s as well. Im going to pick him up at jail next week. i love him with all my heart he is the best part of me sometimes. he has cheated on me in the past and hurt me many times but i never get mad at him cuz he is my best friend. i want to be with him but also i have grown up alot this year and im a different person idk if maybe its time i just let him go or if its to real and i need to hang on and tough it out. can you help?

[Ask April Masini]

It’s time to move on.

You neglected to tell me why your boyfriend was sent to jail, and it would be helpful to know that. What I wish for you, without even knowing you, is a man who doesn’t break the law. There are so many men out there who don’t have this kind of baggage, that I hope you’ll value yourself enough to find a Mr. Right who’s strong enough to do the right thing — in relationships and in society. I hope you can find a way to feel you deserve that because I know you do! 🙂

Just because you’ve had a friend since you were five years old does NOT mean that that person is your Mr. Right. In fact many people have best friends that they can keep as friends, but find a way to understand that Mr. Right is someone different than a best friend. Any guy who’s hurt you, cheated on you and broken the law and served over a year in jail, is NOT Mr. Right.

You need to find someone else to date. Not this guy.

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