[talonlove2]

Theres this guy and we’ve been friends for awhile and he just recently asked me out. I consider myself “shallow” but still in need of a relationship. I told him I would think about it. I started thinking about when I would see him and where and was about to call and answer him…when my best friend called. Almost all my friends (besides about 3) are guys. After we talked for a bit, I started wondering, “What would she think (say, do) if I said yes to this guy?” Then I started thinking about what my other two girlfriends, guy friends and people in general would think, say or even do. I feel very shallow but I cant stop myself from thinking about it when I talk to him. Should I say yes or no?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not shallow — but you’re not mature enough to realize that[i] it’s important to live your life for yourself[/i] — not for what other people think of you. 😳 If you continue to accept or reject dates because of what other people think, you’re never going to be happy in a relationship. You’ll be trapped by other peoples’ ideas of who you should be.

If you like the guy who asked you out and if YOU want to spend time with him, then you should accept the date. If you don’t like him, and don’t want to spend time with him, then say no.

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