[hskog]

Hello April,

I recently took a break from my long-term boyfriend. We dated for a year and four months and a little over a month ago he told me he was confused about what he wanted and that he didn’t know if he still loved me. He still cared about me and would do anything to help me because that’s the kind of person he is. He is currently finishing up his schooling to become a teacher and was under a lot of stress at the time he told me this and I had explained to him that I thought we should take a break to let him figure everything out. Unfortunately, we live together so we couldn’t take a proper break. About 2 weeks ago I was becoming very concerned that nothing would change and that I was waiting around for nothing. I started talking to other guys online and decided to break it off.

I’ve gone out on a couple dates and had a lot of fun. I spent a lot of time away from home and we barely talked to each other during this time. We both rekindled our hobbies and individuality during this time. When I broke it off my family expressed everything they disliked about him and how I am better off without him. My dad has never liked him, but they don’t really have good reasons as to why they never liked him. For instance, they wish he would talk more when he comes to their house.

My ex and I have decided that we want to try and work things out. He realized how much he missed me after I broke up with him and basically ignored him. He’s never wanted to tried to make a relationship work and wants to show me how much he really does care and love me. He also admitted that everything I said at the beginning of this fiasco was right. My parents, on the other hand, are concerned that this will happen again and don’t trust him. My mom got extremely emotional and started making ultimatums and trying to make me feel bad. She said she didn’t want him in her house and if I’m going to stay with him that I shouldn’t visit. She kept telling me that they’ll never like him.

I just want them to give him the chance I’m willing to give him. I know he can prove himself. It’s difficult to explain in few words, but we have gone through a lot in our relationship and I knew we could get through this if he was willing to work as hard as I am. I’m worried that I told my parents too much during our break and may have caused more anger toward him. I understand that when you break up families and friends take sides, so I’m wondering if time will make them change? I don’t want my parents feelings to ruin our rekindling relationship. Is getting back together worth the pain I will feel from my parents guilt trip? I love my ex and he has already shown so much growth.

I’m hoping you have some good advice to help me get some clarity. An unbiased opinion seems to be the best option here.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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