[Anonymous]

I have been seeing someone for about a year and things started off really well. We got along really well and seemed to enjoy each others company. Then a couple of months ago he started to pull away cancelling on me with any plans that I tried to make. I just figured he needed some time to himself so I left him only and haven’t tried to get in touch with him for about a month. I recently saw him at a friend birthday party and he came up to me and talked to me just the way he normally did. I found this to be a little weird, but I was nice to him. He had told a friend that he was going to try and talk to me and that was about a week ago and he still hasn’t. I don’t want to keep kicking up something that is already over, but I just have no idea what the heck is going on. Should I just let him come to me in his own time, try to get in touch with him, or just leave him alone completely? Any shared thought would be great! Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like he’s broken up with you — quietly! It’s not normal for a guy to date you for a year and then pull away and not see you regularly unless he’s doing it on purpose. Relationships usually build or maintain a happy level of communication and intimacy (with ups and downs within them). This sounds like the relationship is fizzling out.

It’s fair for you to ask him if he’s moved on — if that will help you, but the reality is behavior speaks louder than words, and his behavior is shouting that it’s over. I’m sorry, but I’d hate to see you waste any more time on a guy who isn’t into you after a year of dating. I think it’s time to move on, yourself.

I hope that helps, and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Member]

Posts