[smithson1212]

Hello there,
I am in a difficult situation with a girl whom I work with. I seem the be getting mixed signals and am not sure if she likes me or if she is just messing with me. I would love for any advice on what to do!
She is 20 years old and just started working with me a few weeks ago. I am a real shy guy so it was often her that initiated the conversations, however I introduced myself on the first day I saw her. Anyways, after working and talking for a few days at work, she asked me for my last name so she could add me as a friend on facebook. So I would send her messages and talk on facebook while we both weren’t working, anyways one night she was with her friend and they drank a little too much and I got a message that night saying how she thought I was a nice guy and a fun guy and said to let her know if I ever wanted to hang out. I then asked for her number and texted her throughout the week. It was always me who had to initiate the conversations. There were two times when I told her we should do something like go to a baseball game or just hangout and she said definitely. One evening I started texting her and after we were talking for a little bit I sent her a message asking if she would like to go to and grab some dinner. She didn’t reply for the next 4 hours and said she forgot to check her phone and said it sounded fun but she had plans. I took that as she didn’t want to hang out. So work was a little awkward. And I started to space myself apart from her. She would make small talk everyonce in awhile.
Today, she has pictures of her ex boyfriend up on facebook, but she isn’t even friends with him. I am confused as to what is going on. What should I do if anything
Thanks so much.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You need to be more assertive in showing her you’re interested. From her point of view, she let you know she’s interested, but although you mentioned going to a ball game, you never delivered (which comes across as disinterest on your part), and you offered to “grab dinner” with her the same night you asked, which again, doesn’t come across as your thinking she’s special. Whether or not she was free, she told you she wasn’t, and it seems like you’ve dropped the ball.

Now, you’re looking for excuses not to ask her out — and all you can come up with is a friendship she has with an ex on Facebook. 🙄 The world is full of people who don’t take advantage of opportunities and then live with regrets. Don’t be one of them!

Ask her out on a real date and let her know you’re interested if you are. Instead of making a casual attempt at cornering some of her time, consider her a valuable person you want to win over and go from there. 😉

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