Thank you for the extra information! 🙂
You have to remember that your actions will have consequences, and just because you have a feeling doesn’t mean you should express it — or express it to him. Put yourself in his shoes, and you’ll understand why he may make you feel like you’ve lost him after you told him you were uncertain about the equity of your feelings and his. 😕 He asked you to be his girlfriend and you expressed doubt to him about your feelings. That gives him the opportunity to forge ahead and try to win you over or to decide you’ve opened the door for him if he wants to walk through it.
That doesn’t mean you should lie to him, but if you’re not sure you want to continue dating him or not — that doesn’t mean you should tell him. You’re not a Twitter feed where you’re constantly announcing news about your feelings (or at least, you shouldn’t be!). Your boyfriend, date — or even husband — doesn’t have to be your best friend in order to have a great and healthy relationship. He doesn’t have to know or report in on every feeling. And if you have doubts, consider talking to a friend, not him. Especially if the risk of talking to him is losing him.
Also, you might want to consider my dating guide that the first three months of any dating relationship is the time you should use to decide if you want to continue dating him. It sounds like you do want to continue dating him. The next three months, which bring you to the six month mark, is the time you should use to decide if you want to be monogamous. Lots of people jump the gun and get too involved too quickly. That cuts them off from other opportunities, and creates drama that isn’t necessary.
I hope this helps.
Let me know how things go.
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