The obvious place to start is with your alcoholism. This is a disease and you need to find a way to stop drinking. People die from alcoholism and if you really care about yourself, and your boyfriend, you’ll try to get the help you need to stop drinking. I know this is easier said than done, but it really is step one. You can’t expect to be in a relationship that works well if you’re not healthy from the get go.
Next, I assume you’re living with his cousin because you can’t afford to live in your own apartment. So, you need to get jobs and find a way to support yourselves.
Third, violence is unacceptable in a relationship. When people resort to violence, they’re in trouble themselves and they put others in danger. If you feel that you are going to get violent, leave. Take yourself out of the situation. If he gets violent, call the police. They will help by diffusing the situation and separating you. Jail may be involved, but that’s what the situation calls for if it’s out of control.
Fourth, I suspect if you begin to get a handle on these big three problems, you’re going to have a much easier time in your life. I know they’re big ones and will take a lot of work, but I have the feeling you can do this. 😉
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