Hello again April. I wrote to you a while ago about my long distance relationship. Its been just over a year and a half now. For the 1st year and a bit everything was so good. We were in contact every day either by e mail/text/IM. We had an amazing time when he came back, though was short. He went away again last June, he is still away. For the last few months there is hardly any communication with him anymore. I have not had a text from him in more than a month. If he answers my e mails, they are very brief. We very occasionlly talk on Yahoo IM. Most of the time he “loses his connection”. I know this is possible, but it seems to be only when he talks to me. Sometimes i see him signed in and say hi, how are you etc. And he just ignores me. I sent an e mail asking him if he still wants a relationship and wants to see me when he comes back. I mentioned that when we 1st met is was a deal that we would always be honest with each other weather it be good or bad. All he said was How are you, miss you. Will send you the money to pay my phone. Love you and lots of kisses. He said to me he had been having trouble paying his mobile phone bill, so has been sending me the money to do it. This time, i just did it. Hopefully him sending the money was not a lie. Considering he has not sent me any texts at all, his phone bill was big. He has said he cant always get a signal on his phone to text. Which i also know can be true, but his phone bill is very high with him texting someone. Of course i mentioned it, but he ignored the question. It seems he only wants to talk to me about sexual things, which i don’t occaisionally. Sometimes i feel like its the only way we can have a conversation. I cant believe he would just end things by ignoring me more and more, i cant believe he wouldn’t say what he wants even when i have asked. Sometimes it feels like he is playing games or using me. I thought i had got to know him, and trusted him like family. I feel like we had become so close. I have to bear in mind that he works 15+ hours every single day, 7 days a week. And he has been doing this for 11 months now. Other thoughts i have are that he is tired, stressed and i should be patient and wait till he comes back, which could be anytime. Which is why i dont want to end things if he is back soon. But it is just so hard like this. Would appreciate your opinion. Friends say dump him, and i would say the same thing to someone else. But i have known him for nearly 2 years and it is not so easy to just wall away.
April Masini, your AskApril.
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