[drhgiggles]

My current intrest & I have been friends for 10 years now. We dated when we were around 15, then broke up. He got into a very bad long term relationship. They cheated on eachother, beat eachother, everything that goes into a horrible relationship. He finally had enough & left her

Around 5 months ago, we got romantically involved. He made me feel so safe & it felt so passonaite so fast. I fell in love with him quickly. Everything was beyond perfect. Then she started to harass him constantly. Texting, calling, sending naked pictures, begging for him to take her back

We were still doing amazing for about 2 months. Then, she started to text & call my phone. Telling me about how he cheated on me with her. Come to find out, about 3 weeks into the relationship, he cheated. I had stayed that entire weekend with him, but went home Sunday night. He cheated on me that night

I didn’t find out until around 3 weeks after. We fought & broke up. That night, he had sex with her again. It crushed my entire heart. He broke down about everything & we worked on getting back together. This was at the beginning on March. Since then, he’s talked to her several times. She would tell me everytime. We would always fight over her. Every single day. He finally got sick of it & got his number changed

Since then, her & her friends have been texting & calling me from a fake texting app. Telling me horrible things. At first I ignored it, but when it’s an everyday thing it started to get to me. So, I became stressed & on edge. He then became on edge in fear of losing me. We fought again & he broke up with me. Gave me back a ring I bought him, everything

I freaked out calling his phone, fighting with him. Trying to insult him to make him feel as bad as I do. He didn’t take that to well, so started ignoring me for a few hours. Which made me break down. We talked for about 10mins about how we wish it would stop & how we want this to work. I went & picked him up & we went to sit down by the beach to “talk”. He didn’t try to talk at all or anything. He asked for a hug & gave me a kiss on the cheek but that was it

I dropped him off & he told me he’d text me. This was around 9pm. I didn’t hear from him until 7am when I called. He acted hesitant to talk to me, then randomly told me he loved me. Then went back to acting like he wanted nothing to do with me. I tried calling & he’s ignoring my calls. Then picked up & hung up. I’m terrified that he’s currently with her

What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You should move on.

Here’s why: He’s not interested in you. I know you’re disappointed and you’re wanting him back, but he doesn’t want the same thing you do — a relationship with you. [i]I know this is hard for you to accept, but until you do, you’re going to be in this panicked and broken state because you’re trying to get someone back who doesn’t want to be with you.[/i] 😳

The other reason why you should move on is that this isn’t a healthy relationship for you. The two of you fought and broke up way too much in such a short period of time for this to anything but high drama. It’s impossible to be healthy and happy when you’ve got this much discord and uncertainty in a relationship. This isn’t healthy for you or for him.

Third, when you told me that he beat his last girlfriend, I didn’t understand why you would put yourself in a romance with someone who’s hit a woman. 😳 I’m sure you’ve rationalized this, but it’s a very dangerous situation for you to be in. When couples fight, they always have the option to walk away instead of resorting to violence. That he didn’t, is a huge red light.

I know this is hard for you, but I hope you’ll accept the break up and move on. You can find someone to love who loves you back and is healthy and wants the same for you. 😀 But this guy isn’t him. Mr. Right is still out there. 😉

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[drhgiggles]

I know I never returned to this website. But lets just say, you were completely right. I broke up with him last July & he is STILL harassing me ’til this day. He even found my posting on here & keeps emailing me a link to my post

Is there any possible way you could please delete this posting?

I have read up on your websites faq’s & realized, that I can not delete it. I would like to erase every possible connection he keeps trying make between himself & I. I have pressed harassment charges on him & have a restraining order, but he is still emailing me. After talking to a judge, he told me to delete all of my accounts online & anything that has to do with him

PLEASE HELP!

Thanks <3

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you got a restraining order, and if he is violating it, you should call the police and ask them to help you enforce the order. In the meantime, simply block his e-mail so he can’t e-mail you, and do the same for phone calls.

As for this website, there is nothing here that identifies you or him — this is an anonymous site, which is why we don’t take anything down once it’s posted. There is no way for him or anyone else to identify you or him — unless of course you told him that you were on this site and what your username is — I really hope you didn’t do that. 😕

I hope that you can put this relationship with him behind you and move on with the knowledge you’ve gained as a result. 😉

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