There are lots of different men “out there” and you have to decide what it is that you want for yourself in a date and a relationship. If you don’t decide ahead of time what you want for yourself, you’re going to wind up dating lots of guys in different situations.
This is a really good opportunity for you to decide if pleasing your parents is important to you and if so, to what lengths you’ll go to do so. There are lots of ways to meet men — at bars, at parties, at school, at family events — etc. If you’re worried about safety, always give a friend or family member your itinerary for the night and text to check in periodically. Walking around the city with a guy you don’t know isn’t as safe as meeting in a restaurant or a movie theatre. Maybe next time, you’ll decide you will or won’t say no to a date that doesn’t have a firm plan like a restaurant or a movie theatre until you know the man better.
There are also lots of guys out there who are single fathers, and there is NOTHING wrong with not wanting to date a single parent, so decide if you do or don’t want to date a guy who has a child. And if you feel that having a man who is ambitious with his career is important to you, then don’t waste your time or his dating someone who isn’t.
So rather than see this first date as trouble, look at it as an opportunity to figure out what YOU want in a man. Knowing this is going to save you loads of time and heartache over the next decade — and beyond.
I hope that helps — let me know how things go.
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