The bottom line here is that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. Whatever reasons he gives you doesn’t change the fact that he’s not available to you.
When people don’t like what they see or hear, they try to rationalize situations so as to bend the truth. That’s what you’re doing, now. You’re trying to blame your ex-boyfriend for “making you” have oral sex with his friend and then using that as the reason for his not wanting to be with you. The reality is that you are an adult who chose to have sex with his friend in front of him. Judging from your excellent written communication skills, I strongly suspect “No” is in your vocabulary. So, it’s not fair for you to blame him for what you did.
That said, it’s a little strange for him to date you for an entire year after that incident, in what I’m assuming was a monogamous year of dating, and then suddenly throw that incident up as the reason for his not wanting to be with you any more. Either he really was traumatized by that incident, or he’s just looking for an excuse to get rid of you. 🙁 Either way, you lose.
Regardless of how much we analyze the situation, he’s not interested in you. And frankly, why would you want to be with a guy who gets drunk and wants you to have sex with his friend in front of him? There are plenty of guys who have too much to drink and their worst offense is falling asleep! Even if you did agree, his request was not something he was ultimately comfortable with. You can do better. Get back out there! 🙂
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