[thatguy408]

Hi, give me your honest opinion of what I need to do in order to become more than just friends with this beautiful girl. We met at work and at first sight I was like I need to get to know this girl she is pretty with an exciting personality an always cheerful. I love that. I always wanted to hang out with her so many times, luckily she would always be at work telling me “hey we should hang out, lets grab a drink, hit me up.”I don’t know why I ignored that for a long time until one time I was with my friend and he told me man the fuck up, she wants to hang out text her and tell her to kick it, unsurprisingly she agreed to grab a couple of drinks. I don’t know why I always thought she would say no lol. She than said sorry Im going to be out of town, but I’m free sunday so we ended up going to the club dancing and drinking and honestly had a blast with her. Before I finish telling what happen this one night the only other times we hung out is when one of my coworker would invite her, me and some other people to go eat out. One time she asked if I could pick her up and I did and we and everyone had a nice dinner. When I took her back home she asked if I wanted to stay for a bit, and ended up with her in her bedroom. We just talked and chill in her bed for a couple of hours. The next day this one gay co-workers tells me some stuff that she told him that she thought I was a nice guy and everything but I guess she was a little upset of the fact that she invited me to her bedroom and I didnt make a move on her. Back to the night of when we went to the club, at the end of the night we never kissed but we did get a little touchy or well I did but she didnt fight back. That night she ended up spending the night with me in my bedroom but I swear my little sister whose 21 woke up and killed the mood by calling her bitch, slut, etc and woke the whole house up and long story short embarrassed me and I just thought it killed the mood, but after my sister went back to sleep she told me it’s no big deal. So nothing happen and she ended up spending the night. The next day she goes to the movies with that gay guy and he tells me that at the movies she would be saying “so and so is such a….” and he would ask “such a what” and she would respond never mind. She said this twice at the movies according to him but once I told him about how she spend the night with me it made sense maybe she was waiting for me to make a move on her but I just thought my sister killed the mood for her so I didnt that one night. It’s been months now since we kicked it. I guess she moved on with other guys. As for me I’ve been with like 4 other girls who I actually had sexual relationships and theirs been a couple of times that she has seen me with hickies on me at work, I’m not sure if that helps. All this girls I’ve been with yeah there cute but that’s all they are so it really didnt last long and I just go for what I want from them, I guess I hesitate and think about my moves with the girl I work too much. She’s not my co worker no more since I got a new job, but recently I went to the store and there she was, we talked and before I left she was telling me to hit her up, I really want to hang out. So I did and I guess she was to busy that night but the next week she hits me up to go to this special dance event. Again I had so much fun just being with her. We went outside and were chilling in my car for a bit in the back and guess what she brings up the past. She had said it was no big deal when it happen but she was telling me how it hurt her feelings etc and I apologized and told her sorry for making her feel like that than my two other friends come to the car and interrupt our conversation. I’m just confuse whats the whole point was to bring up the past. I need help, what do I need to do to be more than friends with her. Do you think, I need to stop thinking too much and just go with how I feel. I don’t really have girl problems but I am with her.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are the two of you?

And what is your living situation — I was a little confused when you said that she came home with you, but your 21 year old sister was there. Is your sister your roommate? Who else do you live with?

Let me know, and I’ll give you my advice. 😉

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[thatguy408]

Well im 22, I make really good money, but not enough to live on my own if I want to pay for school so I stay with my parents and shes 24 years old and she lives with her aunt.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You need your own space! Your sister interrupted your make out session and your friends interrupted your car conversation with this woman. You may have underestimated how this affected her because you’re getting used to living like this, but it sounds like had a stronger reaction than what she initially let on. You probably expected her to be okay with it — and even wanted her to be okay with it, but it doesn’t sound like she is.

I don’t think you should bring women back to your parent’s house. It definitely ruined the mood, and may have ended your chances with this woman. Most women do not want to have sex with you in your parent’s home — especially knowing that your sister is going to run in and create a scene and call her names. I think you underestimated what this was like for the woman you want to date.

My advice is that you get your own place — and let her know you’re getting it so she doesn’t have to endure that kind of privacy issue with you again! You can get a second job to pay for an apartment, or get roommates to offset the cost of an apartment.

I hope that helps!

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