[Katienolan93]

I recently had a threesome with a couple. It was lots of fun, I felt so sexy and they were great. The problem is, I have a boyfriend. And he doesn’t know about this. I felt like I had a better time (with sex) with the couple than with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I should fill him in on my feelings about our sex without telling him about the threesome, continue and not tell him, or just stop doing the threesome all together. I’m. So. Conflicted.

[caseyghatchell]

[quote=”Katienolan93″]I recently had a threesome with a couple. It was lots of fun, I felt so sexy and they were great. The problem is, I have a boyfriend. And he doesn’t know about this. I felt like I had a better time (with sex) with the couple than with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I should fill him in on my feelings about our sex without telling him about the threesome, continue and not tell him, or just stop doing the threesome all together. I’m. So. Conflicted.[/quote]

You’ve indeed made a very complicated situation. Since you’re have a boyfriend, why on earth you’ve made sex with the couple. Since you mentioned you’ve great sex time with the couple rather then your boyfriend.

So I believe so should consider telling your boyfriend the truth. And also describe you’re not satisfied doing sex with him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Fill me in a little more. How old are you both? How long have you been together?

If you’re just dating your boyfriend, and it’s a new relationship, then this isn’t so much cheating as it is playing the field. But if you’ve got a long-standing commitment with your boyfriend, and you cheated to be in this threesome, and you liked it, you should consider how much the relationship with your boyfriend means to you. Chances are if he finds out without your telling him, he’s going to be very upset and probably break up with you If you tell him first, you can do some damage control — but only if you want to.

Knowing your age, the history of your relationship and what you’re looking for at this stage in your life will help me advise you. 🙂

[Sally]

The threesome itself isn’t the core issue the secrecy is. You crossed a boundary in your relationship, and now your body is giving you information that your current sex life isn’t fully satisfying you. That doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human. But pretending nothing happened will slowly eat at you and leak out in other ways.
Telling your boyfriend about your needs without mentioning the threesome is possible, but only if you’re ready to be honest about what you want more of communication, variety, connection without comparing him to anyone else. If you keep the secret and keep seeing the couple, the distance between you and your boyfriend will grow fast.
Ask yourself this quietly: do you want to fix your relationship, or are you already stepping away from it? Your answer tells you what to do next. Whatever you choose, don’t live split in half. That’s the part that really hurts.

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