[Jocelyn]

[b]My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months..(1 year lease). Last night i fell asleep while we were watching tv on the couch. I suddenly woke up to find him texting someone (about 130am). He tried to say he was on FB. Eventually I was able to have him show me who he was texting. And It was definitely inappropriate. Some girl sending him sexy pictures. He too had sent her a picture but he had already deleted that. I’m pretty sure he was texting another female as well. But at this point I was already very upset so I got up/got dressed and went for a drive. I returned about 2 hours later. He swears he was ‘just TALKING’ sh*t. And that he doesnt even know the person.

I’ve known him for a long time and I know he has cheated in the past in previous relationships. I’m devastated and feel pretty stupid believing he was just young and stupid back then… ”once a cheater always a cheater…”??

What should i do?[/b]

[Marvelous Missy]

Trust is the foundation of a relationship. If there is no trust, the relationship will only end up crumbling. And if you stay, he knows what he can get away with and will continue to do so. Like you said, once a cheater always a cheater. Walk away now before you invest more into the relationship and it gets even harder.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Got to agree with [b]Marvelous Missy[/b]. He’s got a history of cheating. You just caught him. Buckle up for more of the same if you stay.

You mentioned the lease, so I’m assuming you’re concerned about how to break up with him now that you have a legal obligation together. Good point! 😉 Imagine if you married him and owned property together, had cars together, bank accounts together and children together. 😮

I’m not a lawyer, but getting out of the lease will depend on who’s name is on the lease. If it’s just yours, my advice is to have him move, and you can get a new roommate, if you were splitting the rent cost. If it’s just his name on the lease, you can move out at any moment as long as the two of you didn’t have a rental agreement between you. If you’re on the lease together, you’ve got a more complicated problem, but it’s not unsolvable if you read the lease and want to come up with a way to get out of it — there are always ways to break a lease, but you want to do it legally, and it may cost you money to do so. Frankly, it will be money well spent and the price you need to pay for having chosen someone who is wrong for you.

Let me know how things go.

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