[Joanne13]

So there was this 1 guy who I’ve met just a few weeks ago. We just talked about normal stuffs n days later we started txting. But it seems like he’s in a rush. He keeps on bringing up this heavy topics such as wanting me to meet his parents and his friends, wanting to sent photos of me to his mum. I panicked and told him to take it slow. And so he did. I appreciate tht. But it still feels like he’s rushing things. He would always find chances to ask me out, like for lunch or just a walk to the town. I think it’s sweet but it feels like Im not ready yet to take tht huge step. So evry time he asked me out I would come out with excuses. It seems too fast for me. N I hve this guilty feeling inside of me, worrying tht I might not be able to feel those same feelings he had for me. I like him but I’m not into him tht deep, yet. Wht if I unconsciously use him to mke me feel better of myself? Sometimes,I feel like I’m misleading him. N I hve this constant worry of wht my family n friends thought of him. Honestly, his weight is three times my weight n he’s bald. I don’t know, im one of those people who cares too much about others thinking, especially the ones I care about. A part of me is afraid tht my family n friends will be too judgemental about him. I’m hvg this bad habit of listing down his pros n cons in my head. Its like Im considering if he’s good enough for me. I know, Im being selfish n judgemental but I cant help it. Im hvg too much doubts, aren’t I? Is tht bad? Ive had too much of shitty relationships before so I guess thts why Im being extra careful. So wht should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[Joanne13]

Im 18 and he’s 20.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. So you met him a few weeks ago, and he’s asked you out a few times, but you don’t want to go. Now, it seems like you’re overthinking things. If you don’t want to date him, then move on and don’t spend so much time on him. And if you do want to date him then accept one of those lunch dates he’s offered and see if the two of you connect in person. Bottom line, it sounds like you’re not that into him, and you should find someone else to date who makes you feel excited about seeing. 😉

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