[ForeverConfused]

Last weekend, i went on date with a girl who i have an extremely huge crush on. Things went great, we had a steady conversation, great body language, throughout the night she gave me little smiles, and even mentioned doing something again before the night was even over. Around the later portion of the date, she got a call from her mother (who was watching her son), saying that her son was sick, so we had to end the date early. Despite her son being sick, she invited me in where i talked with her mother for a while and even made her son giggle and laugh.When the date ended, i was surprised it ended without a kiss, but didnt think too much of it. When i didnt hear from her the next few days, i thought for sure nothing more would come of it, until midway through the week she texted me bright and early in the morning. Basically just recapping conversation about things we talked about on our date, and then i made her laugh a few times. The next morning, i texted her back at the same time, and the same type of conversation happened, only i flirted a bit with her, but no talks of making plans. Another day passed with no conversation, then this weekend she texted me saying that she was at a work function where she knew nobody and that she wished i was there so she didnt feel so awkward. I guess this is where i start getting confused. Im not sure if shes talking to me as a buddy or someone who truly wants to see me again. I just feel that if she really wanted to see me, she would make plans with me like she did before, or at least ask when she can see me again. My friends have told me that in the past that she has always been the type to chase after guys that show her zero interest, and then dump the guys that show interest. This is my reasoning for laying back and letting her initiate everything. I know your advice to me will probably be to avoid games and just tell her how i feel, but i really like this girl and don’t want to screw anything up, as i feel i really haven’t yet. Please bring light to this confused man!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I actually don’t suggest you tell her your feelings. Instead, I do suggest that you simply ask her out on a date. You’re the guy — you get to do the asking! 🙂

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[ForeverConfused]

Thanks for the reply, April! But does she still sound interested to you based off of what I told you?

[cocoakisses]

yes , she definitely sounds interested. go for it!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

YES! I agree with [b]cocoakisses[/b]. From everything you wrote, she’s definitely interested.

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[ForeverConfused]

A few years ago, a girl that i have always found attractive asked me out. After a few dates, we seemed to be hitting it off well (flirty texts, she cooked me dinner, make outs). To make a long story short, she eventually ended up giving me the “My ex really hurt me, and im not ready to date” speech. However, within a few days i saw she was dating somebody else. After i heard about this, i deleted her from facebook, and didnt speak to her for 3 years. Recently, this girl has come back into my life, because my best friend dates her best friend and we have established contact again. A few months ago, she asked me out, and we immediately hit things off again, or so i thought. After having, what i consider a great date, we only texted once or twice the remainder of that week (which she initiated). When i asked her out that following week she said YES, but then the day we were supposed to go out, she cancelled on me at the last minute, and i decided that it was over once again. Another month and a half went by, and i saw on her facebook that she had been on a few dates. Then she started to once again get really active in liking my facebook posts and we even started texting each other songs to listen to (we both love the same music). One night when i was on vacation, she sent me a picture of herself and said that she wished she was there. The other day on my birthday, not only did she text me all day, but she made a post on HER facebook wall that made it seem like we were together, telling me happy birthday. Later that night, she also sent me a naked picture of herself along with the follow up to go out with her that weekend. I obviously said yes. As that week went sloooowly by, i noticed that one of her girl friends on facebook said “cant wait to see you this weekend”. Assuming that now our date was off, i choose not to make a fool of myself and ask if we were still on for our date. That weekend, she posted a few pictures of her and her friend together, but never did i get a text saying she had to cancel, or even worse never got a reschedule for another time. Its been 2 weeks since ive heard from her now, and she seems to be not liking my posts anymore on facebook…but i know this whole process will repeat itself eventually based off of her pattern. I know she has trust issues with guys, and openly admits to going after guys that she cant have. I feel i have been very nonchalant in my feelings for her, so i dont think she knows how crazy i am about her, but am i doing something wrong? Does this girl like me, or my main question is..does it seem she just likes the attention from me?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This is the second time in two months, with two different women, that you’ve asked me if a woman likes you, and my answer is the same: If you want to know if someone likes you enough to date you, then ask them out on a date. If they go with you, the answer is yes. If they don’t, the answer is no. But, in this case, it looks like you dropped the ball on your date because you saw something on Facebook and assumed that she had made other plans. 😕 It would have been better if you’d confirmed the date rather than just not shown up for it. 😳

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