[lostnconfursed]

My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We recently got married in July. My birthday is coming up and he asked me what I would like. This led to a fight that all started when we started dating. When we started dating he went to another province for 6 weeks for military training. While he was gone i was hanging out with my best friend, we went swimming and i told her i just wanted to hang out with her because we never got to hang out anymore. She said ok but when we went swimming i found out she invited her boyfriend and he brought along his friend who i thought was hot. I made a truce with them so they wouldn’t dunk me because i didn’t want to be touched. After swimming my friend and i were on our way back to my house to watch a movie and then her boyfriend convinced her to come over to his friends house to watch a movie. So i couldn’t let my best friend go alone so i went with her. While we were watching a movie at the guys house that i thought was hot he had his hand on my leg by my knee and his arm around my shoulders at the top of the couch. at the time i didn’t really think anything of it. however when my husband (who was just my boyfriend at the time) found out from a friend who lied and said that i slept with him. I didn’t and now everytime we get into a fight this comes up. I mean it was 6 years ago! yesterday he told me if i told him the whole truth he would move on from and and leave it alone. i told him exactly what i said here and he still doesn’t believe me. what can i do to show him that i’m not lying to him and that i truly want to be with him for the rest of my life?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s not your job to defend a lie. You told him the truth. He doesn’t believe you, and he hasn’t [i]for six years[/i]. There’s no reason for you to think he’s going to change. He probably has other trust issues that have nothing to do with you that you’ve known about for a while now. It’s his responsibility to deal with those issues, and all you can do is keep telling the truth and being impeccable with your words and your behavior. If he’s someone who mistrusts people, then you have to make peace with the fact that you married someone you knew had trust issues. 😳

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