Your boyfriend is wrong. 🙁 If he’s having a guy’s weekend at the vacation home you built and own together, that’s understandable. But if he changed the theme of the week to a [i]family [/i]get together at your family home and you’re the only family who wants to go and isn’t invited, he’s crossed a line that excludes you, sends a message to his children (your stepchildren?) that it’s okay to hurt and exclude you, and is trying to manipulate you by telling you that you should feel ridiculous for wanting to be part of the family in your own home. 😕
[b]IF[/b] you really want to go, and are not just feeling unjustified, ask him to [i]either[/i] disinvite his daughter and explain that this is a guy’s only week or else to include you with his daughter as the female family representatives in a family vacation week. Try to disengage from being right or wrong — and agree to disagree on feelings. In other words ask him to accept that you may be ridiculous and he may be exclusive, but this situation calls for a compromise, not a morality score of who’s right or wrong.
However, if you don’t really want to go and are just feeling shut out, consider something you’d like in exchange for stepping away from the curb on this one. Long term relationships are built on, among other things, compromises. Is there a vacation you’d like? A family favor you’d like him to do other than this? A piece of jewelry? 😆 Figure out if there’s a deal that can be brokered where you both feel like you’ve given something up and also gotten something in exchange for having done so.
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